Sex is war.

See your cute puppy coming back scratched from a night outside where he cuddled with five other males around some of the asses in heat. Hear a cat scream when the male’s jagged penis came inside of her.

True, sex and pain always went together. To this day there are those who yearn for the days of ancient man (sprout in the head and drag her into the cave). To this day the ‘reward’ for soldiers in tribal wars in Africa is the authorization to rape the women of the other tribe. Why else should a man go to battle? Why should he endanger himself?
The answer is clear:
When the masculine essence is to spread your seed, you are in constant war against other men on the woman’s uterus. That is, in the most natural, basic and instinctive sense – sex is war.

We are in a lose-lose situation. On the one hand, if we do not give it expression, if we close off and suppress this aggressiveness, we deny it the natural element that exists in it. The people will feel a void. After all, a woman somewhere deep wants her man to be strong, conqueror, and an animal in some ways. On the other hand, submission to this pattern in which only the man initiates intercourse, man controls him, directs him, leads his pace is giving up the shadow of what is holistic in sex. There is no pleasure in surrender and release.

This is the sad truth. The main victim in the eyes of the sex war is the man who fears weakness and softness. The one for which the mother, the feminine, is the “other”. The one who can not identify with her and therefore makes him the victim of the constant search for his male self. In practice, he always feels that he has failed in his mission to resemble the masculine ideal, because unlike the mother who is the concrete earthly, the father is always metaphorical, airy, an uncracked ideal for eternity.

After all, the father did not find himself (like a grandfather before him) and did not know what a man was, so he had no way to bring answers and points of support that would support his children’s search. That is why in reality (and this I hear from many men) the search for authorizations for our masculinity never ends.

Femininity is the whole nature

If so, we can summarize so far: the male is a male by virtue of his actions. He creates himself in constant search for permits. A female is a female by virtue of its essence. The physical separation from the mother is not traumatic and is not interrupted, but she continues to become psychologically identified: the girl participates in the activities of her mother, takes care of the dolls and even the two of them love the same man. Her essence is more solid than that of the son, her element is deeply rooted in her soul, and this everyone knows: in the end, the woman is stronger than the man. and basically less confused than him.

How does a keep himself from getting lost in the great feminine?
Until now the man’s answer was – I will control it. I will bend its hand, analyze it because it is a tool, so I will turn it into an object. I will put on a veil, a wig, cut her clitoris, tie her legs, and finish on her face.

Manhood cannot deal with femininity and therefore wants to humiliate it. Every time a man disrespects a woman (hears a joke about blondes, curses a female driver on the road,
sees how her ass is being spanked in a porn movie), he gets a small, low sexual stimulus, because for a moment he touches this place, the war which he almost always loses.

“In a relationship with a woman, a man’s punishment for his physical failure to serve as the goddess of love is her emotional tyranny,” writes Barry Long, the Australian teacher who passed away two years ago. “No matter how much he will love her, one day she will shock and destroy him by exposing Lilith, the feminine field Of sentimentality “

As long as the woman is not valued as one of the elements of nature that Barry Long says, the man can not accept his lost authority. So if couples do not learn to make love and move it up, then sex in its most basic form, there will be room to release aggression. The man is in constant sexual excitement higher than the woman. He is more excited about her than she is of him, so he ejaculates quickly or experiences impotence. His own observation and disappointment always lead to sexual frustration and emotional aggression, whereas in the woman, the dissatisfaction of the encounter causes her to plunge again and again into a world of fantasies that will never exist.

About the male’s fear of the women

Men want a little woman. Why? Because they are confused. A big woman reduces them. And who was the first big woman? Where did it start for us? At the Mother.

We accept the stupid war of the species so naturally because its roots lie so deep in the unconscious that we have no memory of the time we had been in our mother’s womb without a struggle.
The question “who am I” comes hand in hand with the discovery of the child (at about the age of 3) that there is a penis swinging between his legs, his restlessness does not end until the day he dies in a hospital. On his deathbed, he will try to look at the nurses. The question “Who am I?” Would not lead to such confusion in the man, if not at the age of three he discovers that he has a penis and his mother has a vagina.
Seemingly an important stage in becoming a man, in practice – the beginning of the male psyche. Because when he realizes that he has no vagina, he is actually forced to deny the place from which he came. He rejects the relationship with the most important figure he had at the beginning of his life and starts looking out for answers. The negation of the mother leaves him with a hole that he must fill; what am I? Who am I? This is the question that men follow all life later: What is it to be a man, how do I justify my masculinity, and the first answer that the boy accepts is negative: a boy is not a girl.

These are the roots of the tenderness rejection. The negation of the emotion that turns the man into a soldier in the war of the sexes. Because in his soft, childlike consciousness, a pattern has been created that, in order to create the positive, must turn everything that is “no”, the femininity, into a negative. My son, who is 6, is most insulted when I tell him that he looks or behaves like a girl. We can wrestle, hurt each other, call terrible names but I must not tell him he’s in some way like a girl because then he will start to cry.

Over the years, this insult changes its form but remains the same.

Thus, feminine values, such as tenderness, containment, affect, become in the male consciousness undesirable, dangerous, weak values. On the other hand, the society that needs soldiers, policemen and other protectors reinforce us in the opposite place, planting an opinion that men are brave, wrought, hard, not emotional.

Unfortunately, this is not the truth and this is an unbalanced picture of reality, that creates emotionally disabled men who are incapable of in-depth contact, who are afraid to be needy (ie submissive, that is, not masculine). Countless men roam around their world carrying heavy loads on their shoulders, unable to ask for help, unable to go to therapy.

Unfortunately, the tragedy of the boys who have managed to disengage from the mother without rejecting the feminine and going into the world without the obligation to justify their existence is that even if they manage to maintain the qualities of tenderness, emotional and mental containment after the age of 3, the school will remove it from them.

Children win or lose by their ability to succeed in the environment of their peers. So the sensitive boys, unless they develop the classic features of the boys (competitive, loud, sporty) will become victims of their friends, will be called transsexuals and will not be invited to the guys until they adopt proper codes. In the circles of men I edit, there is always someone who talks about the way he learned about masculinity only after being boycotted or called a daughter. This is the basis for male oppression in the hands of the few men who manage to get out of it.

Femininity as an object

Thus, it can be said that apart from exceptional men who have succeeded in finding good male models that release them from the need to disqualify femininity, the rest are afraid of the image of a large woman and therefore choose a small woman. We are more comfortable with young women. You can see it in the media. What is the perfect female figure as portrayed in advertisements? In telenovelas? Someone sweet, with a small nose but with big tits and perfect lips, more like a baby than a woman. A little girl who makes you want to protect her. That helps you feel masculine and powerful even if you are not. Round, wrinkled, and mature women are considered not to be aesthetic because they are too much like our mother and mothers, as you know, do not need guards, but on the contrary, if we need them, they will protect us.

Designers, photographers, newspaper editors, etc. Most of them are males with an undeveloped male perspective that fear powerful women and therefore (like any consumer product) shape an impossible woman figure that most women can never meet. Thus, the fear of a man from a big woman is passed through the fashion agents to 13-year-old girls who, with a little tendency to obesity and social insecurity, commit diets and eventually suffer from anorexia – direct victims of the war of sexes.

Another interesting (appealing and repulsive) reflection of the war of the sexes is pornographic films that reveal the male perspective without any refinement and are proving this point from another angle. For porn, as a product consumed in billions of dollars, was supposed to be part of the social discourse, especially in view of the great influence it has on its consumers, but, to be very astonishing, its talk is negligible. Porn is the black hole of our society. Why? Because it proves that when it comes to the bottom line, the consumer does not want to see sex as lovemaking but to see them fuck aggressively.
For several years now, I have been fiercely opposed to Porn.
Not to the essence of “photographing people making love” – which could have been very beautiful and even artistic, but to the blunt graphic form that is being displayed today in the world. There is very little quality porn in which the penetration and ejaculation are not the main things, there is no objectification of the woman body and can be seen as a connection and intimacy between the couple. Why the hell are they not kissing? Why don’t they look in the eye? To give some illusion of intimacy … unless porn is meant to give men the fantasy that a woman is only a hole (one or two or three) and that he has to come on her face.

Who will explain to me the logic of this? Why come her on the eye and not on her stomach? Why don’t people get up and say I stop consuming a product that humiliates my female friends? my daughter? When you consume it, you encourage it, you strengthen yourself in a bad war.

A man and a woman are sitting opposite me, they are in couples therapy.

At best it’s about a wedding ceremony they want me to do for them, and at worst they are in crisis and need help. In any case, it will not be a quarter of an hour before one of them makes the following statement: “… which is very difficult because in certain things we are perfect opposites …” and his partner will nod vigorously to reinforce the feeling that they are a very special couple. “For example,” she complains, “he does not talk anymore and I do not know what he feels”. Then he answers: “and she keeps entertaining friends.” A closer examination of the beginnings of their relationship during the first days of courtship shows that he has always been so silent, but then she saw it as a sign of masculinity, assertiveness, and power. At that time, he was attracted to her because she was warm, lively and open. Today it’s his problem.

Neo-Tantra versus the ancient Tantra

My Tantric work, the Neo-Tantra, is different from the ancient Tantra, which was the domain of monks who had never met a woman at all, by examining the masculine and feminine ways of actually merging them – between the sexes themselves and the sexuality between them.

Ask: “And what other options can be explored by men and women? The answer is that classical, Tibetan, and Hindu Tanta developed in another era (more conservative and traditional) and was therefore very ascetic and masculine.

It sends the practitioners, or monks, to nature to better understand the constant dialogue between the active (masculine) sides and the passive (female) through their reflection in reality – the river cuts the mountain, the snow freezes the grass, the clouds float in the sky, the passive gives an active background – and in fact gives it meaning. Thus sexual abstinence was and still is an inseparable part of this tantric initiation in order to provide the soul with a fertile platform of unsatisfied desire that the resonance is projected onto the entire nature.

The Neo-Tantra (which emanates from a Western society based mostly on the freedom to fall in love) has abolished the principle of abstinence. Neo- tantra says: To achieve the same goal – to study the erotic nature, the balance of the sexual instinct through his reflection in the sublime and the holy – Dive into it! Make friends with him, not alone and metaphorically – but through a spouse. Neo-Tantra takes the principles of classical tantra and applies them in relationships. It believes that through a good relationship (and sometimes a bad one) you can discover all the things that will bring you to balance. Consciously or unconsciously – your partner can be a master.

The demonization of the enemy

In short, neo-tantra is a practical, very earthly theory that has a clear purpose: to marry a man with his opposite. To bring inner peace between the contradictory desires of the soul.

The man is drawn to the woman and afraid of her. The woman is attracted to a man and angry at him. In my opinion, the war of the sexes has not yet surfaced. In addition to the jokes here and there, and in feminist articles, we did not put the great anger between the two sexes on the table.

The reason why the war on the sexes did not surface – only a few attacks by feminists – is because the occupying side still does not recognize that it behaves in a relationship out of fear and not out of freedom. He sits with his guys demonizing the enemy, telling jokes about blondes, watching blue movies and perpetuating the occupation.

You see it in every relationship.
For example, have you noticed that in our society the norm is that women are encouraged to always choose a man who is “more” than her? – in his years a man should be older than his partner in one year at least and must be taller than her .It is very desirable to have higher education, having a career and wages are more rewarding and I want to stop and ask – why? Is there any sort of agreement that women should be less? After all, from a sexual point of view, the woman reaches her peak in her mid-thirties (15 years after the man!). In terms of life expectancy, a woman should marry a man five to five years younger. The only conclusion here is that the advantage of an older man, more educated and higher, serves men in the status quo in the war of the sexes to enable the woman’s dependence on her husband.

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First, I will explain that “Yoni” in Indian is the name of the female genital organ and its meaning is the sacred place, and in my view, it is more pleasant to call the female genitalia and describe it than the other common and non-flattering names in Hebrew and other languages.

So what is a really Yoni massage?

What differs it from a simple touch with the fingers and makes it into a sacred and healing ritual? What are the benefits and why should you pay attention when you make the decision to undergo such a ceremony?

On the mental/spiritual/energetic level, Yoni is the second center or the second heart of the woman, as I experience it, and here it becomes more complex.

What is the connection between massage and energy stimulation in the body?

The energetic flow of the woman begins from the Yoni and enters through it and continues up through the uterus and the heart and up, and from this very direction the flow is collected into the Yoni, which for this matter is like an energetic strainer. A range of traumas and injuries, both physical and non-direct. It can be a word that a spouse/parent/ friend said or just a person from the street that said something to her or an experience not directly related to her and the energy just got stuck in Yoni.

Over the years, different experiences accumulate in Yoni, which sometimes affects the woman’s sexual behavior and feelings. Feelings and sensations of fear, guilt, shame, and embarrassment begin to settle and over time, an emotional contraction is created. That often becomes physical, and this can manifest in all sorts of phenomena such as vaginal contraction and dryness, burning and scratching in sexual intercourse and “inviting” various diseases to enter.

The Yoni massage touches the temple and heals all the layers of the woman. The woman’s consent to the touch in Yoni by a masseur as well as by a spouse is actually an invitation to enter the sanctity and in my eyes, this is the only way to touch a Yoni, holiness, compassion, love, and healing, meditation that is prayer.

This is what distinguishes the message from just playing with the fingers to sacred and healing ceremony, intention, understanding, and knowledge.

The sacred ceremony is divided into several stages: one can be passed through one massage in tastings or one stage is passed in separate messages. The stages are in order: a gentle massage, a message to the holy spot, a special message to release traumas, a female ejaculation ritual, and a cervical orgasm.

What does Tantra have to do with it?
Much of the ceremony is also devoted to transforming the sexual energy into love and lifting it up to the heart. The massage/ritual begins with no contact and is dedicated to studying breathing and energizing the body. There is a physical exercise to relax the body so that the good energy can flow freely, and the stuck and traumatic energy will be released from the body during the message that will come. After the breathing and exercises, begins a full body massage and pressure at energetic points that help the energy to move and release. And finally reach the temple, in the Yoni itself, we touch from the outside and inside there are additional pressure points that stimulate and release the energy, in the high stages of the ceremony you can work with orgasm and learn the difference between female masculine orgasm female feminine and how to rise and move and to Meditate through orgasms.

It is important to note that Yoni massage does not aim at pleasure, and yet it can happen and it is blessed, but it is only the result of the sacred process and the release of the stuck energies.

For whom the Yoni massage is designed for?
The message I described has many advantages in healing the release and empowerment of women and sexuality and therefore is intended for every woman regardless of her sexual abilities, her spiritual level, and her personal status, single or marital. Also, the Yoni massage can be learned by couples who wish to heal each other through these rituals.

What should you pay attention when you make a decision to undergo such a ceremony?

* It is worth checking out the real desire behind the request for the ceremony, in order to be precise.

* It is important to undergo it in a ritual and professional manner with a person who is capable of dealing with Lilith and the demons that emerged during the healing process.

* Unfortunately, many women have suffered severe injuries and are carrying them in their bodies and souls and during the massage, these things are released and healed, but it is important to check the readiness to deal with these injuries and to know the limits and go slowly.

* It is important to feel the energy of a male therapist that creates polarity for female energy and thus stimulates the healing that comes from a man, and sometimes it is good to feel the feminine energy which will flood and allow other things.

* Pleasure is a blessed thing, but focusing on the pleasure without energetic spiritual work can lead to a sense of emptiness and exploitation after a while.

* The space during the ceremony is dedicated to the woman only, a space in which she can devote herself and express herself freely without having to give back to anyone.

* Tantric massages are part of a whole spiritual way that changes a life, and it is recommended to undergo the massage as part of this path.

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On the other hand, when people experience the Tantra through me or through other teachers, either in person or through a workshop, then the reactions become: “How did I not do it before? There is life before Tantra and after Tantra”

So what’s going on here?
How does it happen that on the one hand, people are undergoing such a fundamental change in their lives and on the other hand, there is a “negative” name for Tantra?
It may be a little long, but anyone looking for a real change in his life is worth reading to the end.

They say that Tantra is a quick way to enlightenment

But as you may know, when you travel quickly, there are also accidents, and in my opinion, this is part of the matter, and if we are aware of this, we can enjoy the wonders of the road and its fruits.

In order to understand better the problem, we need to know what makes Tantra different from other spiritual ways. In the Tantra Way, we work and awaken the life energy in various exercises, along with the awakening of this strong and powerful energy. We experience full sensory awakening. We become alert to our life and our environment. It happens through our physical senses [hearing, smell, taste, touch] and through our energetic senses. We begin to feel our heart more in addition to our energetic and emotional physical bodies. We become more sensory beings, and out of all the awakening in this sense, sexual energy also arises and we become sensual creatures.

Being a sensual creature is a wonderful thing, but it is also a trap for those who follow this path, because it is actually a junction on the way. The sensory awakening and sexual arousal are only the results of deep work in which we remove different barriers from ourselves such as anger and shame and it is important to remember that sexuality is only one layer of a whole puzzle that makes up our lives. When you get stuck in the sexual level, things gradually become empty and preoccupied. In sex, you become obsessed because you try again and again to recreate the thrill that was when the senses opened to us after years of closure and deprivation.

Anyone who has experienced a long-standing relationship, whether it was monogamous or polyamorous, will tell you that sex is an important part but not the main thing in creating a strong relationship that contains and grows. So does our personal life. Sex is an important part of our lives, but not the only thing that will give us satisfaction and depth in our lives. In fact, good sex is the result of a good relationship or a full and satisfying personal life and not vice versa!

How is all this related to the bad reputation that went out to Tantra?

When some of those who walk along the path are “stuck” in the stage of sexuality, create a space in which the preoccupation with sexuality it becomes dangerous. It creates a fertile ground for vulnerability and even exploitation of “new marchers” in the way, promises and false charms of enlightenment through sexual liberation that has no spiritual basis. This false promise for enlightenment, tempts people who yearn to heal their past wounds and are swept away to a space that will give them a temporary pleasure followed by disappointment, which will lead to the bad rumors about the Tantra. Some of which are true to what happened to them. But this is not Tantra, and if we add to it all the pain that already exists around the subject of sexuality in the world and the resentment between women and men, easily Tantra becomes a punching bag and a scapegoat of all the victims, and a wondrous road disappears from our eyes in a fog of rumors and resentment.

Yes, Tantra influences and transforms many layers in our lives, including sexuality, and with the help of Tantra, we can also reach orgasms of this kind and others and maybe men who control ejaculation and desired sexual peaks. Nether the less, these peaks are only the result of deep work and liberation and healing of the past and these sexual heights. The enhancement of creativity in our lives, the intensification of desires and feelings, the removal of shame and guilt from our soul and our bodies, and many other peaks without which the peak of sexuality would not have been achieved at all or not fully experienced.

We can be champions in bed, but what is it worth, if we do not feel our heart. If we can not communicate our feelings and take responsibility. If we can not contain the other without going into self-blame… we will find ourselves chasing the thrill and when it is over we will look for the next one in an exhausting chase and not over.

Tantra is a way of truth and meditation, of deep inner work, of ancient and fascinating rituals, a path that leads to growth, prosperity and spiritual development.

I invite you to come and get to know a magical and wondrous way filled with ancient wisdom and march towards a life filled with happiness and joy with an open and loving heart.

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Not only that, her orgasms can last well beyond a few seconds and she does not immediately fall asleep at the end. Did someone forgot us men? Can we also do that? So that you do not stay in suspense? The answer is yes!

Yes we can be multi orgasmic and experience several orgasms in succession without or with loss of sperm. It is a spiritual method on the one hand but not necessarily, it is a real practice that can be practiced, practical tips and practice instructions at the end of the article. So let’s go.

Before we reach the desired orgasm we will give up reaching the goal, take a deep breath to the stomach and exhale the air long. In the context of orgasm, male sexuality is much less studied than in women .They have a great deal of technical, anatomical and emotional level, how to reach orgasm, and how to experience multi-orgasms in great detail. In contrast, in men it is assumed that this is not achievable and unrealistic. In talking about male sexuality, the focus is mainly on the physical aspect and less on the sensuality, it is probably due to our culture that imprinted the role of the warrior, the penetrator, the missionary and the less surrendering and present type. When a man grows up on the fact that his masculinity is measured by the degree of his erection, he less develops his senses and therefore sensuality is not a significant player in the play. Sensuality for most men focuses on the genitals and pelvis and less in areas such as nipples, throat, neck, feet and more. The ability to experience one or more orgasms (without ejaculation) begins with a connection to the senses – taste, smell, touch, hearing.

In order for a man to develop a multi-orgasmic ability, he must emerge from a cock-standing-penetrating awareness to a sense of pleasure, presence and devotion. So the genitals are not used as a weapon of war but as a tool of pleasure. As soon as the male is present in the body, breathing and is not aiming for ejaculation, then one or several significant orgasms can occur. This of course means leaving the head aside, we do not need the head to experience an orgasm.

The first thing we need to understand as men is that both physical and biological euphoria and ejaculation are two separate processes.

In men, orgasm is usually accompanied by ejaculation but not necessarily. Ejaculation can be felt throughout the body including shoulders, head, brain, lips, eyes and more. In fact, we can experience all body orgasm, which is usually called a tantric orgasm that allows men to enjoy orgasm without ejaculation and thus experience a sequence of orgasms as much as they want. Studies show that men can experience 2 to 16 orgasms before ejaculation. By Tantric practice, we can separate orgasm and ejaculation and thereby experience a series of orgasms without ejaculation.

I personally have no objection to ejaculation, on the contrary, it is a celebration of life. In my translation – do not spill your seed in vain – meaning that if you are already finished then celebrate it and take advantage of this special pure liquid for playing, smelling the body and other creative ideas. I am in favor of sorting out the amount of amnesty and increasing the time between finishing and finishing. Science has already proved beyond a doubt that there is a lot of vitality in the seminal fluid and the body invests considerable resources in order to re-create it, this becomes significant as we age.

Of course re-creation has an advantage, but there is a balance here. There is something very powerful in the sexual energy stored in our seeds. The preservation of the sperm allows us vitality, health and longevity. In our sperm, not only the ability to create new life but also the fountain of youth itself. The sexual energy as we learn in Tantra can be transformed into action, love, meditation and orgasm. And why is it important to talk about keeping sperm in the context of multi orgasm? Because multi orgasm can not be experienced if the sexual energy is weak. Multi-orgasmic practice often requires sperm retention.

So what is an orgasm?

Orgasm is the sense of pleasure we feel during or after the sexual release. In French it is called la petit mort, which means little death, and this explains what goes beyond orgasm and perhaps also its spiritual-mystical aspect. During the orgasm there are significant changes in the body, such as increased breathing rate, accelerated heartbeat, and hormonal bombardment (Serotonin, Adrenaline, Oxytocin, Endorphins, and Dopamine). The brain releases all the tension in the body. In addition, muscle contractions occur in the pelvic floor at a rate of 2-14 contractions per second.

The muscles that contract are in the anus, the prostate, and the muscles around the genitals. The orgasm itself felt in the brain and as vibration throughout the body, a sense of peace, relaxation and great satisfaction. Beyond the advantages mentioned above, a multi orgasmic man is a gift for every woman or man and of course for himself. Since he has no purpose to finish, and therefore there is more presence of touch, love and staying in the moment, the act of love lengthens and develops in a new quality. What else would we ask for?

So what should I do as a man to experience multi orgasm?

First to relax, one of the things we find difficult with men is competition and penis envy, and all the time we have a desire to prove that we are strong and good and fuck like machines. The invitation is to part from this part of us, to devote ourselves to our body, to learn to make love with ourselves, to explore and discover points of pleasure. With this, we will also be relieved of the guilt, shame, fear, and embarrassment that accompany us in the contexts of sexuality and our body, which Tantra views as nothing less than the temple of love and our lengthening of the light.

In order to develop multi orgasmic abilities, we must familiarize ourselves with our perineum, which is actually the region between the anus and the scrotum. This point is also known as the million dollar point or the sex muscle and yoga is called mola-banda (root locking). This point is actually the basis for Tantric work and for the development of multi orgasmic ability in men. The good news is that it is possible and the least good news is that it requires a lot of practice and perseverance and here most of us fall. This muscle, like any muscle in the body, requires exercise, strengthening, and the ability to control it. It can stop ejaculation, strengthen erection, and pull sexual energy up the spine along the “flute” of the body’s energy centers (chakras) in the microcosmic pathway through the mouth and heart back to the lower abdomen (Hara) where it is stored. In this way, we inject the sexual energy in the body and experience it as an orgasmic vibration. First of all, connect to this point. Feel it with your hand, massage it with slow turns and push in and breathe in for full breaths.

Before we move on to the training stages, it is important to say a few words about breathing, because without breathing you can not experience orgasm. Most of us do not fully breathe, but give the body the minimum required. It is very important in any context of sexual work to develop full breathing capacity. It means – an open mouth, a full inhalation of the stomach and chest, feeling the fullness, stopping for a moment and slowly releasing all the air.

In addition – Pranayama practice (Prana = life energy, yama = practice) such as Kaplabti, Ujay, Hastrika and more. It is advisable to work with a qualified and experienced teacher. Then open your mouth, take a deep breath, fill your stomach and chest, hold a little, and breathe with your mouth open with a good sigh.

Let’s start working.

The first step is to practice the contraction and relaxation of this muscle. To understand exactly where it is, imagine that you are urinating and then stop urinating (it is not recommended to do stop much while urinating, only to understand the place). Take a deep breath, squeeze the muscle inward and up, and release slowly. Even if at first you do not know exactly where the muscle has released it, it will come over time. This practice is possible at home, driving or sitting at work. It recommended to start with 50 a day and gradually increase to 300 or more.

The second step is to learn to stop the ejaculation by contraction of the PC muscle (Pubococcygeus, the yoga mulabanda, root lock), this exercise is also Kegel Exercise. The idea here is to make love with yourself. In Tantra we are less using the word masturbation But in self-indulgence, and that’s a big difference. In self-indulgence, you make time for yourself, without a mobile phone, without interruption, a good shower, music, an incense candle or anything that makes you cozy. Then you begin to rediscover your body.

With a slow, sensual touch you touch all of it, discovering new points of pleasure and mainly breathing deeply to the stomach and chest. Gradually you adjust to the sex area – groin, buttocks, testicles, lingam and learn to identify the point of no return. Work on edging, if the scale of sexual arousal is 1-10, meaning 1-2 is the beginning of the arousal, the feeling of desire for sex, 3-4 there is already excitement, blood flowing to the lingam and starting hardening, 5-6 lingam is already difficult. 7-8 the level of the stimulus increases greatly and we begin to feel the edge. 9 This is the point of no return from which the ejaculation will be at 10.

The practice should always bring you to the 8-9 area and then stop by contracting the muscle and spreading the energy from the genital area to all parts of the body by rattling, caressing, sounding and breathing. Another recommendation – because we want to develop awareness of our sexuality, its power and control (control from a positive place), the recommendation is not to use porn in this practice because it distracts us from being fully present with ourselves.

The first few times the ejaculation may come, accept it, everything is okay on the way. Later – you may stop the ejaculation too soon and orgasm will not come, this is also a step in the way. Then one day orgasm will come without ejaculation, and it’s a real celebration. The most important thing as in any self-empowerment is to enjoy the way, to be present and enjoy.

The next step is to learn to increase the energy in stages at the different stations on the way. First, in each aspiration, we imagine the energy rising from the genitals to the sacrum, and from there through all the vertebrae to the neck, head, face, throat, heart and abdomen. These are the main stations on the way. The recommendation is to dedicate a few days to each station and to take each station with an aspiration and contraction, stay there and feel the impact on the physical, emotional and energetic-sexual level.

You can initially lay a hand on each center and feel the energy. If you experience difficulty or do not feel anything, imagine the energy coming up in the various centers. Guided Imagination is a powerful tool in developing the multi-orgasmic ability.

An additional advanced practice is called the “Passion Pump”, it teaches us to rotate the energy in a Microcosmic orbit and experience the multi-orgasm throughout the body. Of course, later on, this practice can be combined with the sex itself, by penetrating and experiencing the multi-orgasm with a partner, which we will leave for another article.

This exercise is not recommended to be practiced alone, but under the supervision of a qualified teacher first, and of course if there is any medical problem, consult a doctor.

A man who wants to develop in the Tantric way is invited to talk to me. I specialize in male sexuality (straight, bisexual, gay and everything in between) and train men to control their sexuality, multi-orgasmic experiences and connect with the true masculinity from a place of love and acceptance, thus living a life full of passion and pleasure. We practice as a group of men once a week in Tel Aviv. The Tantra Yoga class teaches us the principles of Tantric practice in support of yoga, combining bodywork, breathing, movement, voice and touch. You can also arrange personal meetings with Tantra or Tantra Yoga. I also hold short and long-term workshops for men only, and represent the largest school in the United States for the conscious sexuality of The Body Electric School.

Please contact me with any questions. Namaste, Ronnie

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Sigmund Freud says that the man was born neurotic. That’s the half-truth. Man is not born neurotic but he is born into a neurotic humanity, and society around turns everyone, sooner or later into neurotic. Man is born natural, real, normal, but as soon as the newborn becomes part of society, neurosis begins.

As we are, we are neurotics. Neurosis consists of a split – a deep split. You are not one; You are two or even more. This must be understood in depth. Only then can we continue with Tantra. Your emotion and your thinking have become two different things; This is the basis of neurosis. The thinking part and the feeling part became two, and you identify with the thinking part not with the feeling part. Feeling is more natural than thinking. You came with the heart that felt, while the mind nurtured. It was delivered by the society, and your feeling has become suppressed. Even when you say you feel, you just think you feel. This happened for a number of reasons.

The first sutra in the ancient book Vigian Behrab Tantra says:

“And as you continue to do so, avoid the final vents. At the beginning of the sexual union, keep your vigilance to the starting fire”

And that’s what makes all the difference.

For you, the sexual act is an outlet. So you move into it in haste. You want to get discharged. Overflowing energy will be released; Feel relieved. This relief is just a form of weakness. Overflowing energy creates tension, excitement, and you feel that something has to be done. After the energy is released you feel weak. You may refer to this weakness as relaxation because the excitement has passed, the overflowing energy has passed. You can relax. But this relaxation is negative relaxation. If you are able to enter relaxation only by emitting energy, it has a very high price. And this relaxation can only be physical. It does not penetrate deeply, and can not become spiritual.

This first sutra says, Do not rush and do not yearn to finish. Stay with the start. The sexual act has two parts: the beginning and the end. Stay with the start. The first part is calmer, warmer. But do not rush to the finish. Forget the end altogether.

At the beginning of sexual union, keep your vigilance to the beginning fire.

When you are overflowing, do not think in terms of release. Stay with this overflowing energy. Do not look for ejection. Forget it completely! stay complete in this warmth of the beginning. Stay with your sweetheart, as if you have become one. Create a circle.

There are three options. A meeting of two lovers can create three geometric shapes. You may have read about it or even seen an old alchemical picture in which a man and a woman stand naked in three geometric shapes. One shape is the square, another is a triangle, and the third is the circle.

This is one of the oldest alchemical and tantric analyzes of the sexual act. Usually, when you are in the sexual act there are four people, not two – this is the square. There are four angles there because you are divided into two parts – the thinking part and the feeling part – your partner is also divided into two. You are four people. Not two people meet there but four. That’s a lot. There really can not be a deep encounter. There are four angles and the encounter is fake. It looks like a meeting, but it is not. There is no communication, because your deep side is hidden, and the deep side of your beloved is also hidden. It is only a two-pronged encounter, just a meeting of two thought processes, not of two processes of emotion. These are hidden.

The second type of encounter can be like a triangle. You are two – two base angles. For a fleeting moment, you become one, like the third angle of the triangle. But only for a brief moment … Your seconds are lost and you become one. This is better than the square encounter since at least for a single moment there is unity. This unity gives you health, vitality. You feel alive and young again.

But the third is the best. The third is the Tantra meeting: you become a circle. There are no angles, and the encounter is not for a single moment. The encounter is truly non-temporary; Time does not exist within it. And this can only happen if you are not looking for ejaculation. If you’re looking for an ejaculation, then it will turn into a triangular encounter – because once the ejaculation occurred, the contact point has been lost.

Stay with the beginning; Do not move towards the end. How to stay at the beginning? There are many things to remember.

Do not treat the sexual act as if it were moving somewhere. Do not treat it as a means – It has no purpose; Second, do not think about the future; Stay with the present. If you can not stay in the present at the beginning of the sexual act, then you can never stay in the present – since the nature of the act itself is one that throws you into the present.

Stay in the present. Enjoy the meeting of the two bodies, the two souls, merged into one another … dissolved into each other. Stay in the moment without going anywhere, and melt away. You have to turn your warmth, your love, into a place where you can melt into one another.

Therefore, if there is no love, the sexual act is a hasty event. You use another; the other is only a means, and the other uses you. You take advantage of each other. You do not merge into one another. With love, you can merge. Merging at first will provide many insights.

If you do not rush to finish the act, the act gradually becomes less and less sexual and more spiritual. The genitals also dissolve in each other. There is a deep, silent separation between the energies of the two bodies, and then you can stay together for hours. Together it goes deeper into the passage of time. But do not think. Stay in the moment, in a deep merger. It turns into ecstasy, to Samhadi. And if you can know this, if you can feel and realize it, your sexual mind will become non-sexual. In this way, it is possible to obtain a very deep Brahmacharya, to achieve celibacy.

It seems paradoxical because we think in terms that if a person is supposed to stay apart, he must not look at the other sex, he must not meet … avoid, run away! Then the most false celibacy is created: the mind continues to think about the opposite sex. The more you escape from the second, the more you have to think because it is a deep basic need.

Tantra says, do not try to escape – escape is not possible. Instead, use nature itself to get beyond. Do not fight! Accept nature in order to transcend it. Unite this with your lover. If you extend it, without ending, just stay at the beginning …. excitement is energy. You can lose it, you can reach a peak, and then the energy gets lost and you get depressed, feel weak. You can treat it as relaxation – but it is negative.

Tantra gives you a higher dimension of relaxation that is positive. The two partners meet one another, delivering vital energy to each other. They become a circle, and their energy begins to flow in a circle. They give life to each other, a renewed life. There is no loss of energy. Instead, more energy is acquired, because through the encounter with the opposite sex every cell in your body wakes up, excited. If you can dissolve in this excitement without leading it to a climax, staying at first, without getting excited, staying warm, these two warm-ups will meet.

You can extend the act for a long time. Without ejaculation, without throwing energy out, it becomes meditation. You become whole through it. Your divided personality is no longer divided – it is connected.

When a child is born, he is an entity that feels. He feels things; He is not yet a thinking entity. It is natural, just like anything natural in nature – just like a tree or an animal. He must suppress his feelings because if he does not suppress his feelings he will always be in trouble. When he wants to cry he cannot cry because his parents will not approve it. He would be condemned, he would not be appreciated, they would not love him. He will not be accepted as he is. He must learn how to behave. He must behave in accordance with a certain ideology, ideals; Only then would they love him.

When he is himself, love is not for him. He can only win love if he obeys certain laws. These laws are forced upon him; They are not natural. The natural being begins to be suppressed, and the unnatural, the unreal, is forced upon it. This unreal thing is your mind, and there comes a moment when the split is so great that you can not overcome it. You completely forget what your true nature was – or what it is. You are a fake face; The original face was lost. And you are also afraid to feel the originality, because once you feel that the whole society will be against you. So you yourself turn against your true nature.

This creates a very neurotic situation. You do not know what you want; You do not know what your real, authentic needs are. You turn to non-authentic needs because only the sensitive heart can give you the sense, the direction … What is your real need? When repressed, you create symbolic needs. For example, you may eat more and more, fatten yourself with food, and you can never feel full. The need is for love, not food, but food and love are deeply connected. So when the need for love is not felt or repressed, there is a need for food. You may continue to eat. Since the need is false, it can never be satisfied. We live in fake needs; That’s why we do not achieve satisfaction.

You want to be loved; This is a basic need, natural, but it can be diverted to a false dimension. For example, the need for love, being loved, maybe felt like a fake need if you try to divert the attention of others to you. You want others to pay attention to you – but the real need is to be loved, and even if the whole world pays attention to you, this basic need cannot be satisfied. To satisfy that basic need it is enough for one person to love you, to give you attention, out of love.

When you love someone you give him attention. Attention and love are deeply related. If you repress the need for love, then it becomes a symbolic need- you need the attention of others. You may accept it and still not be satisfied. The need is false, detached from the basic natural need. This division within the personality is the neurosis.

Tantra is a revolutionary concept – the oldest and the most modern. Tantra is one of the oldest traditions and yet it is not traditional, even anti-traditional since Tantra says that as long as you are not whole and one, you completely miss life. You must not remain in the split state; You have to become one.

What do you need to do to be one?

You can keep thinking but it will not help you because thinking is a separation technique. Thinking is analytic, it separates, divides things. Emotion connects, creates synthesis, turns things into one. So you can continue to think, read, study, observe. It will not help until you fall back to the emotional center. But this is a very difficult thing because even when we think of the emotional center, we think!

When you say to someone, “I love you,” note whether it’s just a thought or an emotion. If it’s just a thought, then you’re missing something. Emotion refers to the whole; Your whole body, your mind, whatever you are involved in. In the darkness, only your head is involved, and this, too, is incomplete – only a fragment of it, a passing thought. Perhaps it would not be there anymore. Only a fragment is involved, and it creates great suffering in life, because for a piece of thought you may make promises you can not keep. You can say, “I love you and I will love you forever.” Now, the second part is a promise you can not keep because it was given by a fragment of thought. Your whole being was not involved. What will you do tomorrow when the thought will no longer exist? Now the promise will become a lie.

Sartre says somewhere that every promise becomes false. You can not guarantee because you are not complete!

Only a part of me promises, and when the part is no longer on the throne, another part takes over, what am I supposed to do?

Who will keep the promise?

You were born hypocritical because then I continue to try to maintain, I pretend that I keep the promise… Then everything becomes false.

Tantra says, fall deep inside you into the emotional center. What to do and how to fall back? Now go into the sutras. These Sutras, each of them, is an effort to make you whole.

At the beginning of the sexual union, keep your vigilance to the starting fire, and always keep away from the finish line.

Sex can be a very deep fulfillment and sex can throw you back to your truth and natural being, for many reasons. These reasons must be understood.

First, sex is a complete action. You are thrown out of your mind, out of balance. That’s why there’s so much fear of sex. You identify with your mind and sex is an unconscious act. You become headless. You do not involve any head in this action. There is no logical consideration, no mental process. If there is a mental process, there is no real sexual act, authentic. Then there is no orgasm, no fulfillment. Then the sexual act becomes something local, something intellectual, and it has become such.

All over the world so much craving, such lust for sex, and not because the world has become more sexual. This is because you can not even enjoy sex as a whole. The world was more sexual than before. So there was not so much craving for sex. This craving indicates that you are missing out on the real and chasing the fake. The modern mind becomes all sexual because the sexual act itself no longer exists there. Even the sexual act was transferred to the mind; Became mental, you think of it.

Many people come to me; they say they are constantly thinking about sex; They enjoy thinking about it – reading, looking at pictures, watching porn movies, they enjoy. But once the moment comes to have sex they suddenly feel a lack of interest. They even feel that they have become impotent. They feel vital energy only when they think. When they seek to move into actual action, they feel empty from energy, even without desire. They feel their bodies have become dead.

What happened to them?

Even the sexual act became mental. They can only think of it; They are unable to carry it out in a real way because it will fully integrate their being. Whenever there is any involvement of the whole, the head becomes troubled – because then he will no longer be the master, he will lose control.
Tantra uses the sexual act to make you whole, but then you must move into it in a very meditative way. Then you must move into it by forgetting everything you have heard about sex, learning about sex, what society has told you, church, religion, teachers … forgetting everything, and being involved in it in your entirety. Forget control! Control is the barrier. Instead, let it hold you; Do not control it.

Move into it like you’ve become crazy-unskilled looks like madness. Become a body, become an animal, since the animal is complete. In the state of modern man, sex seems to be the easiest option to make you whole, since sex is the deepest thing, the biological center within you. You were born of it. Each cell you are made of was born from a sexual cell. Your whole body is a phenomenon of sexual energy.

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Headlines such as “7 Ways to Orgasm” or “All About Female Orgasm and How to Reach It” represent the prevailing view that there is some unresolved issue with this whole subject. There is a problem.
It is not exactly clear how the peak begins and where it ends.
For men, orgasm comes as a power, clear, fast and accurate. Much of the Tantric practice is devoted to techniques that treat premature ejaculation and lengthening the time of orgasm. They shouldn’t finish too fast.
In general, the Tantric discourse does not really deal with female orgasms. The man is supposed to finish slowly or not finish at all and the woman is supposed to finish as much as she can.
In both cases, there is a mistaken assumption that there is some place to go. There is a goal, there is a desired end line to be crossed.
I say that the problem begins (and ends …) in the word itself – “finish”.
I suggest a new word to work with and its – to “connect”.
When I succeed in being connected to the body, the soul and the subtle feelings of sexual pleasure that flow between them, then no “squirting” occurs!
A connection is created to the whole process of opening and discovering more and more places in the body that receive stimulation, opening, reacting and vibrating until a kind of internal feedback is created, an endless feedback loop that continues to vibrate at different frequencies. It is actually, an experience of a rich, diverse and total orgasm that connects me deep into me, to my sexual organ. This is the way to myself, to the freedom and to the simple truth of being a woman who belongs to the human race.

Unlike the male orgasm, this orgasm does not go anywhere and it does not end – it’s always there. This is the great cosmic orgasm. This is our pulse of life.
The male orgasm has a clear evolutionary explanation but the female orgasm remains elusive and mysterious for many women.
Millions of women lived and died without the knowledge that they could have an orgasm, and of course, none of them knew that the orgasm could have moved her to a different spiritual dimension, or even be the torch in her way of enlightenment.

The orgasmic spectrum is wide: there are women who can finish during the spinning class, during childbirth, when they are nursing or immersing in the Jacuzzi. Some people experience an extracellular (astral) pleasure experience and their orgasm takes them to visit other countries. There are lots of women who are orgasmic. The statistics that we read in a magazine are – only a third of the women finish from penetrating. The extra third finishes only with external stimuli, and the rest simply do not finish at all.
The misconception is revealed in the word itself – “to come to” – as if there is a certain place that marks the end of the process and exactly where it should be.
So there is no such thing.

It is true, that there are scientific studies that have succeeded in accurately mapping different areas are activated in the brain in the moment of orgasm, and it is clear that there is a neurological end to the process. (Involving explosions of more than thirty different areas of the brain), but those who practice Tantric sexuality already know that the orgasmic process can be infinite in essence. A variety of orgasms waiting to be discovered elsewhere in the body, beyond the fast neural pathway that connects directly between the brain and genitals.

How do you get to a place that does not want to arrive?

Regular orgasm, such as “finishing it”, is usually focused on feelings that arise from the genital area (whether it is in the clitoris, vagina, the G or the cervix). The experience is reduced, regardless of the pleasure and emotional discharge. I do not come here to say that there is any problem with this, on the contrary, it is a very pleasurable experience. What I am saying is that for me the whole thing is in the ability to choose – to finish or not to finish.
The field of investigation, space where all this infinite pleasure takes place is, of course, the body.
The Yogic Tantra sees the body as a wonderful and sacred thing, the chariot that carries the divine soul. According to yoga, all our stresses come from the diagnosis that we are not in the body. Our attention is most of the time between the ears. When sexual energy flows in its entirety in the body, it will often encounter blockages that contain emotional traumas that we hold. When so many women treat their bodies in an unpleasant way, as a disturbing factor and a source of shame and pain, it is no wonder that consciousness rises to the head instead of focusing in the body.

Life in modern society is directed at the mental plane, so that even when we reach physical contact, we are still occupied with thoughts, fears and fantasies, and there is no real connection to the body.
Tantra Yoga encourages us to love, nurture, and cherish the body. It is a source of wisdom, happiness, and freedom. Through the body we are connected to the here and now, to the eternal present, to the force of life. When I am present in my body and agree to connect to my feelings of pleasure in a one-on-one encounter, without escaping fantasies, the barriers melt away and the sexual potential is released. It takes time, effort and sensitivity but it is so worth it!

The “connected orgasm” is a full body orgasm, in which sexual energy is felt as a flow of sensations throughout the body. Her focus is in the Yoni – that’s the heart of the whole thing. That’s the engine. This is the root from which the pleasure begins to grow.
When we manage to bring awareness to as many places in the body as possible – the feeling of pleasure expands from the penis to the whole body and becomes a whole sex organ. The orgasmic wave runs over it, it is loaded and all the orgasmic experience expands and opens.
In this place, I discover that the orgasm is always there, it’s like breathing. Like the sensation of the skin, like the vision, one can enter or leave it. Like an Asana (yoga posture) – orgasm involves giving oneself a moment – to silence.

To get inside and become one with myself, beyond who I think I am. In this, place orgasm is transcendental, beyond place and time. It has no beginning and no end. She’s always here. Right now as you read these words, as I write, I notice the connection to my Yoni, my stomach, my chest, my throat and my face. My fingers are typing and I notice my breath. I feel in my body, I feel alive. From time to time I notice pleasant flickering in different areas of the body. A soft golden light surrounds me.
I agree to experience, to love and to shine myself out. When I am connected, I agree to love, to open up to the world and blossom. I have something to give.
My orgasm teaches me to live. Yes!

Suggestions to help you connect to the orgasmic frequency:

– Loving your vulva. This is the basic condition. From here everything begins. I do not mean that you should now take a look between your legs (although it is great), but if your heart has unpleasant feelings about this magical organ, check what stands on your way to love your vagina. (To read “monologues from the vagina” is a warm recommendation).

– Dedicate time to self-indulgence. It’s true that there are more and more workshops, dealing with the Yoni: Yoni Massage, La Yoni Yoga, Jade Eggs, Amrita Ceremonies and all sorts of other things, but I mean just if you have twenty minutes at home, take yourself to the bedroom, spread your legs and place your left hand on your vulva and your right hand on your heart. Get in touch with your breathing and look at your feelings.

– Connect with a partner who is connected to their orgasmic energy. The next step after self-pleasure is to revel in companionship. Two connected bodies that unite together in the act of love, are devoted to each other and to an experience that dissolves all the barriers between them. An experience that connects us to the divine creation. It is especially worth practicing in an intimate place outside, on earth and under the sky.

– There are countless ways and forms to connect to the orgasmic sequence. You will agree to give yourself to the heart of your sexual movement. Fuck patiently. Allow yourself the freedom to explore together different types of contact, with one giving and one receiving. Speak freely about your feelings. You dare to be exposed to fullness, make sounds, groan and vibrate, move, change positions, suck, lick and enjoy your open and liberated body.

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And to begin with, I would throw out the word “Onenut” (“masturbation”) from the Hebrew language. A word derived from the biblical name Onan, who was, to remind us, one of Judah’s sons, the one who refused to marry his brother’s widow’s wife in accordance with the tradition that was customary at the time, and destroyed his seed to the ground. The family drama of people who died is not connected to loving myself.

There are so many different types of self-indulgence, at least among us, women, there is also different physical conduct and, of course, different uses of the experience.
Clotiral pleasure, vaginal delight at the holy point (G-spot), without accessories, with a stream of water, self-breathing, meditative, is there anything else I did not think of? teach me, girls!

Self-indulgence as a substitute for a sleeping pill, a ritual of love and self-esteem, ritual of self-indulgence as a means of attracting abundance and creating reality. Self-indulgence as a means of healing oneself and sending healing to others .Self-pleasure as a means of merging with the forces of nature, self-pleasure as a means of stimulation and seduction of the partner, what else? Oh, of course, just because I’m horny.
And certainly more, and more.

Psychotherapist Ester Perl, the author of the book “Erotic Intelligence,” argues that “education for erotica is an education that promotes values of pleasure in its own right – the ability to truly enjoy our body is related to recognition of our own worth.”
Our ability to acknowledge our value, to feel worthy and to enjoy our bodies is closely linked to our ability to develop a loving relationship first of all, with ourselves and our body. To know it deeply, to allow our bodies to surprise us and to renew ourselves.
Self-pleasure is not only a substitute for sexual intercourse. Self-pleasure is first and foremost a name of self-love and a deepening of the blessed relationship between ourselves and our bodies. Self-pleasure is a journey of inquiry, of discovery, of joy independent of external things. Asking us to approach him with curiosity, openness, and a genuine willingness to try and experience.

Statistical studies speak of self-pleasure as an experience shared by most women (89%) and most men (95%), yet we rarely talk about it, and from conversations and discussions I have had with women I realize that many of us still find it difficult to find their way to self-love.
So with your possession, I share with you points that seem important and interesting to me from my personal research:

Create a sacred space

Tantric rituals, in fact, rituals in general, are designed to take the familiar, the obvious, and transform it into a new space, allowing us to discover new things about us and the world.
One of the most important and essential stages of each ceremony, is the preparation for the ceremony. Prepare the space, the time and of course your body. light candles, find the exact preparation for the ceremony, say a prayer – “for the sake of the Holy of Holies, I come to fulfill my commandments of creation with love to praise my body.” (For example)

Take a shower or a long bath, apply your body with oils, you go on a date with yourself, how fun!
Get out of the routine – as in any relationship even in a relationship with ourselves the routine can become tiring.
In the course of life, we have created fixed patterns of self-indulgence, excellent! It’s time to explore new provinces and expand. You like the shower- go to bed, like the clitoris-hey, what about the vagina? used to do it before bedtime? – Try to find time during the day (yes, I know, it’s challenging …) Find a quiet and isolated place in nature, play with it. There is a whole world there to discover.

And be kind to yourself – imagine that your lover would go straight to your tickle and begin rubbing with the aim of “finishing” you as soon as possible … you would have cut his head, and rightly so. Touch yourself with silks and feathers, this is not the race after the orgasm, it will come if and when, yes or no, Love and worship those you are.

Invite your inner Shiva

Play with him, how can you please him? Will he please you? Play with archetypes. What goddess are you today?
What brings me to the subject of fantasies – I admit, it’s not so much my thing so I do not have much to say on the subject, and yet, one thing – I hear from women about a lot of confusion, fear, and guilt about this subject, so let’s clarify one thing once and for all, Fantasy does not equal wish !! You fantasize about five hairy men who rape you, but it does not mean you would want it to happen in reality.
On the contrary, the sexual, personal, marital and group space allows us to experience and explore the “animal” that we are in safe and loving spaces. I find that giving space to violent fantasies allows us to “clean” them of the spaces of our relationships. I can play with these yearnings without summoning a life of challenges of sacrificial relations from within them that will allow me to investigate in the “flesh”.

Self-indulgence as meditation – Tomer Persico wrote a fascinating short article in Mako: “Masturbation has something that confronts us with ourselves, which opens up an opportunity to learn about ourselves and what motivates us, and enables us to get closer to our body. But most of all I think that masturbation can be learned from the delicate balance between us and the world, on the thin line between the ego and the other.
This delightful loop reveals many secrets. When I masturbate, who is the worker and who will we act? Who produces pleasure, and from whom? How does the mind affect the body, and how does the body affect the soul? Where is the “I” entering this convoluted circle of feedback? “Indeed, self-pleasure is a wonderful opportunity to practice the” Who am I? “The Beloved”

“It is not good for a man to be (only) alone”

Share your loved ones, self-pleasure really does not have to happen alone and in rooms, you have rituals of mutual self-pleasure, look at each other, sanctify, bless and love each other while enjoying yourself.
And last but not least –
What are friends for? Yes, you know, it’s not for everyone. Sisters that allow exploration of sexual energy that does not necessarily relate to sexual attraction allow closeness, inspiration and joint study.

Well, It came out long and completely out of reach.
Bottom line – let’s love ourselves.

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Tantra is an ancient healing method that deals with human development, with all its parts, bringing him into harmony, inner peace, and happiness. From its ability to touch different parts of the human psyche, it is another treatment method for depression, which can sit on many levels of the human psyche.

What is depression?

Depression is usually caused by stagnant life energy. Hurt we have suffered during our lives, from early childhood to the rest of our lives. All kinds of pains, traumas and difficult experiences accumulated in the body, surround our emotional bodies as well as the physical body and create a deep body weight. This deep weight and pain in the body express themselves in one’s thinking.

The heaviness is expressed in the fact that our thoughts become heavier, gloomier, more depressive, pessimistic, hopeless, distrustful. All these injuries, accumulated during life, become part of our being, people walking in a heavy, oppressive field.

Depression often comes as part of our distance from our source, from our deep, quiet self, which always dwells deep there. With pain and lack of attention and awareness, the pain accumulates and we forget our true nature. So, when you begin to treat depression through Tantra, you start working with and on all aspects of your life.

Tantra Therapy to Relieve Depression

In Tantra Therapy, you can learn many topics of work and personal development, releasing all those places stuck in our body by opening up our physical bodies. The process is done with the help of physical exercises and emotional exercises of emotional expression.

First, we begin with the physical body, we open it. It is impossible to live a world of joy and vitality when the physical body is heavy and dense. This heaviness of the body affects our thinking, our optimism, and our ability to feel hope and knowledge that we are in a good, safe, and resourceful place. Later on, we begin to practice emotional work, to move our emotions, to learn how to release the repressed resentments, the rage and helplessness, the feelings of victims and hurt, the pain and everything that sits around our emotional bodies.
Using all kinds of techniques of moving energy within our body, through learning right communication and identifying the deep needs of what we need. Things that when depressed, we usually forget and do not know how to look inside and see what the body needs. Only layers of pain and hopelessness motivate and create thoughts.

Through the work of awareness, we begin to identify our deepest desires, our unique gifts and learn how to bring them into the world, how to express them, how to cross feelings of distrust. We learn to feel these feelings, learn to re-let them go, to release and open, to connect to our sources of empowerment. Identify the strong places, through a conscious work inward, and start working with them.

Tantra also refers to the aspect of sexual energy in our bodies. Sexual energy is the strongest physical energy that drives our body. Usually depressed people are cut off from this energy, cannot use this powerful engine to transform and change. Through Tantra, you learn how to open sexual energy, how to move it in your body. How can it be released from the sex regions and connect it to the stomach and to the sources of power and emotional bodies. Learn how to move it to the heart, to open and feel it. In the beginning, there is also a lot of pain, depression, rage, anger and all kinds of feelings and things sitting there. We then learn to transform and convert sexual energy and connect it to our thinking centers, to our connection to optimism and deep inner knowledge.

One of the problems that appear in depression is the inability to make a real choice. What makes one’s choices are the bodies of his pain and his inability to function. Through Tantra we learn to recognize these limitations, learn to renew our choices, choose the choices that benefit us. Sometimes it is a way of changing the environment, by changing a place or field of work, sometimes through all kinds of other changes that a person has to make. The person who suffers from depression usually does not see possibilities and hope, and through Tantra, these paths can be created within the person, to make a specific change and even to make significant changes in his environment. Working with Tantra, a holistic and complete therapy which works with all aspects of a person, goes through all levels. This way is a way of process. It does not happen in a day, nor a week. This is a process that a person commits himself to and does with himself. The process is suitable for someone who really wants to change his life, open and get out of depression. All you need at the beginning is to come and ask for assistance from a skilled person who can guide, instruct and teach you, how to work with your energies and strengths and how to work with your own fears.

Depression has all kinds of levels, from mild depression, deeper depression, and clinical depression. Clinical depression is a condition in which the person is out of function and can hardly get out of bed and home. Work in this situation is more profound, usually requires a deeper process, more labor intensive, but it is completely possible. From my experience of treating hundreds of people, the way is completely possible and open to those who really want to change, committed and do what is good for them. There are a varied tools that can this process.

Tantra for Depression: More Ways

There are other ways in which Tantra helps with depression. One way is to introduce the human body into an energetic trance, which can penetrate the subconscious systems and release the layers of pain and emotional armor that have been built over the years. Another way Tantra works is to transform pain energy into pleasure. People can be taught to experience pleasure at other levels than they know, not just sexual pleasure, emission and easy energy release of orgasms, but a profound transformation of energy into pleasure. A pleasure that spreads through the body and spreads throughout the system. A deep connection to pleasure is transformative in itself. Ecstasy and bliss – are mighty vessels that penetrate directly into the subconscious mind. These tools enable the deepest healing path known to man. With pleasure and deep spiritual experiences, people can release more shells from the depths of the subconscious, which sends them a difficult and painful reality. They can create a transformation there, beginning to create an optimistic way of life when they are connected and breathing. There are variety of tools of meditation and breathing, which can enhance the vitality of the body, and turn affect the thinking and patterns of action of the person and open the door to a significant change in his life.

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For whom will this guide be helpful:

Do you feel fulfilled in your love and sex life?

Do you carry pain from the past that continues to affect your present?

Are you realizing your full potential, living life to the fullest?

Most of us live in the world and do not realize our full sexual potential.
A world in which a meeting with a partner becomes a swap of orgasms instead of an act of love; Sex is done from the head and not from the body and the heart, and instead of feeling and filling with love we take on more guilt, and accumulate shame and pain.

That is how we live in the world. Creating more physical injuries that reflect our mental pain (pain in penetrating for women, premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction for men), looking for comfort outside and not inside, and empty ourselves of sexual energy, which is our life energy, in unhealthy ways.

Tantra is an energetic work that returns life energy to our body, connects the emotional body to our physical body, and brings us to realize the full sexual potential inherent in each and every one of us.
This series of videos is dedicated to anyone who suspects that there is something else out there that is better. Who is not satisfied with the current situation, who has heard about Tantra and wants to understand what it really is.

Topics covered in the Tantra Manual:

● What is Tantra? What is the connection between spirituality and sexuality? Why will healing our sexuality also cure our relationship? ● Sexual energy as life energy – a proper and healthy channeling of sexual energy. ● Self-pleasure and self-love – how to manage relationships out of abundance rather than lack and need? ● How to create a safe space in a sexual encounter? ● Dynamics between masculine and feminine – what is a healthy masculine energy and healthy feminine energy? ● Tantric breathing to improve the flow of sexual energy in the body. ● Presence and energetic penetration.

So, how does it work?

The guide includes basic elements and tools to begin and deepen into healthy sexuality, accompanied by demonstrations and explanations by Ambika and Nirvan.
With energetic tools and breathing exercises we will learn to increase self-love, to use the pleasure of sexual energy to open the heart and mind and connect with joy and inner love. In this guide we will study our bodies in a more attentive way as well as how to reach pleasure in different ways than we have known so far. We will learn how to deal with the feelings and memories that arise in the process of connecting to ourselves and how knowing our boundaries can heal us.

All this is accessible anytime, anywhere, without leaving your home!

To access the guide at a special price

About the creators of the guide:

Nirvana Lev:

Heals and teaches since 1996. Studied and taught Theta Healing, Reiki, Kabbalistic Healing, Bodywork and Bioenergy, Rebirthing, Tantra, Sacred Sexuality, Yoga, Sacred Chanting and Sexual Shamanism.

He studied in India, New York, Miami, Iceland, Greece, Italy, Holland, New Zealand and Israel.

Ambika Gurion

She lived for five years in the Tamera community in Portugal, which deals with the healing of sexuality and love, and deepens in the study of peace between the sexes. Was the right hand of the founder and principal teacher of the community for three years.

Lived and practiced in India, Greece, Portugal and Israel.

She studied Tibetan Buddhism, Advaita, Meditation, Sexual Healing, Water Treatment, Buddhist-Western Psychology, Bioenergy, Reiki, Tibetan Tantra.

Come on; take a first step in favor of a great love life

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There is great confusion these days in the sexual energy, the energy that creates and sustains all life, the strongest energy that exists within us. There are two poles of this energy, masculine and feminine. Each of these polarizers has different qualities that are responsible for the functioning of all who we are. We are composed of masculine energy and feminine energy, and each of us also has feminine and masculine qualities.

The properties of a healthy masculine energy:

Presence – the ability to be here and now in and out of the body in a full connection.

The ability to penetrate – the life, the feminine  and all the inner shadows. Done out of presence, tenderness, sweetness and desire to give.

Clarity – the deep connection to the spiritual worlds and the bringing of precision into this moment, the ability to see clearly the vision and the direction of realization.

Creating a safe and secure space – placing clear and healthy boundaries and structures – creates security while allowing the feminine to be all that it is.

Accurate communication – in listening, in speech, in presence, in sharing and in facilitation, the ability to be authentic and real.

Strength – the ability to fulfill, the power to break through, to give a clear direction and to persevere. The ability to exercise in life.

Testimony – the ability to be neutral and without judgment, deep observation in a moment without identification.

When healthy masculine energy is not nurtured, it becomes damaged and hurtful.

The ‘shadows’ of masculine energy:

Controlling and Planning – In the absence of true presence and trust, male energy tries to control, manipulate, a impose life on itself.

Confusion, blurring and lack of direction – when the ability to be present is dimmed, there is no direction, nowhere and how to penetrate and it creates paralysis and submission to what happens without the ability to decide and perform. Looks and feels like lack of backbone, damaged integrity and trust.

Aggressiveness – When the presence is weak, the ability to penetrate the world with presence, sweetness and softness is weakened, and then the masculine becomes difficult, aggressive, and even violent, perceptions of war, competition and survival are strengthened, instead of peace, cooperation and creativity.

Chaos and insecurity – when the ability to create clear and healthy boundaries does not exist, a chaotic and threatening space is created, there is nothing to define and create security. This is how exploitation is born, traumas, distrust and fears.

Lies – When the communication is inaccurate and unreal, false life is created. We walk on exhausting, painful paths, entrenchment in the self and inability to grow and develop.

Frenzy and internal noise – when observation and uneducated committees create internal noise, thoughts and feelings dominate the system, movement from the past to the future, lack of peace, satisfaction and quiet, self-judgment and external criticism.

The healthy properties of feminine energy:

Love – the energy of love itself, the ability to love and be loved, to let love itself flow through us, unconditional and without restrictions.

Devotion and surrender – the ability to let go, to give in to the moment, to energy, to everything that exists, to everything that comes, to be the energy itself and to deepen within it in totality.

Radiation and the ability to develop – the glamor and beauty of life energy, the energy that attracts the masculine, is expressed in nature in radiant viscosity (women and men), Mother Earth. The agreement and the ability to develop more and more, to delve deeper and deeper into devotion and love.

Energy in motion – all types of emotional energy movements, the ability to be total in them, and the ability to move from one emotional state to another in full devotion.

Acceptance – the ability to accept the existing, to deepen the liberation of the old, and to develop more and receive more and expand the channels of
acceptance in our life.

When the feminine energy is not nurtured it becomes damaged and its shadows are:

Conditional love – When love does not reach its depths (mainly due to lack of male presence), love is limited to the exchange of energy, give and take games, love with conditions and laws.

Emotional Disconnection – When the ability to surrender and succumb is weakened, trust is weakened, defenses are created, energy rises to the top (heightened thinking and mind), and a disconnect is created from the emotional bodies.

Emotional drama – when female radiation is weakened and barriers are created from opening, female energy is stuck in pain and suffering and produces more and more painful emotional energy, a feeling of victimization activated and the mechanisms of guilt and applied internally and externally, patterns of revenge and punishment are intensified.

Closure and Opacity – When the ability to accept is closed, the sexual energy is stuck, not renewed, not flowing, everything feels stressed, the detachment from life grows , the patterns of survival are activated and freedom is reduced.

The Sacred Union

The sacred union is the deep encounter between masculine and feminine, a deep space is created in this encounter – of presence and love, of heaven and earth, spirit and matter. This session allows for the deepest healing, the deepest connection, and the deepest transformation.

Sacred union is performed at various levels in depth and form and infinite expressions to it. This sacred union also occurs in our midst (the healthy masculine in us meets the healthy feminine in us, when presence and love merge, and we go deeper into our core, the root of our being to our unity) and in sacred encounters with the outside world (humans, nature ,energy entities, etc).

The sacred union within the act of love making:

The act of love is first of all within us, when presence and love merge together, the masculine and the feminine within us meet and heal each other, and we relax deeply into the place within ourselves that is all and the other place within us is void.

When we relate to the sacred union with another person, we relate to the intersection of the poles that are built with the other’s poles. Usually one person connects to one energy and the other to the other, men usually connect to the masculine and women to the feminine (even in the same sex encounter, one side usually chooses masculine and feminine), this polarity is essential for sexual attraction and general health.

In this article, I refer to the sacred union between a man and a woman, even though as mentioned, it speaks of masculine and feminine, and therefore also applies to all types of encounters.

The encounter begins with the two’s agreeing to create a sacred encounter, a healing encounter that allows anything that wants to rise from our depths (subconscious) to come to the surface and receive expression and transformation. The masculine wants to bring his healthy qualities and through them to open and deepen the feminine, while the feminine wants to surrender and open and move the flow of love.

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