Sex is war.

See your cute puppy coming back scratched from a night outside where he cuddled with five other males around some of the asses in heat. Hear a cat scream when the male’s jagged penis came inside of her.

True, sex and pain always went together. To this day there are those who yearn for the days of ancient man (sprout in the head and drag her into the cave). To this day the ‘reward’ for soldiers in tribal wars in Africa is the authorization to rape the women of the other tribe. Why else should a man go to battle? Why should he endanger himself?
The answer is clear:
When the masculine essence is to spread your seed, you are in constant war against other men on the woman’s uterus. That is, in the most natural, basic and instinctive sense – sex is war.

We are in a lose-lose situation. On the one hand, if we do not give it expression, if we close off and suppress this aggressiveness, we deny it the natural element that exists in it. The people will feel a void. After all, a woman somewhere deep wants her man to be strong, conqueror, and an animal in some ways. On the other hand, submission to this pattern in which only the man initiates intercourse, man controls him, directs him, leads his pace is giving up the shadow of what is holistic in sex. There is no pleasure in surrender and release.

This is the sad truth. The main victim in the eyes of the sex war is the man who fears weakness and softness. The one for which the mother, the feminine, is the “other”. The one who can not identify with her and therefore makes him the victim of the constant search for his male self. In practice, he always feels that he has failed in his mission to resemble the masculine ideal, because unlike the mother who is the concrete earthly, the father is always metaphorical, airy, an uncracked ideal for eternity.

After all, the father did not find himself (like a grandfather before him) and did not know what a man was, so he had no way to bring answers and points of support that would support his children’s search. That is why in reality (and this I hear from many men) the search for authorizations for our masculinity never ends.

Femininity is the whole nature

If so, we can summarize so far: the male is a male by virtue of his actions. He creates himself in constant search for permits. A female is a female by virtue of its essence. The physical separation from the mother is not traumatic and is not interrupted, but she continues to become psychologically identified: the girl participates in the activities of her mother, takes care of the dolls and even the two of them love the same man. Her essence is more solid than that of the son, her element is deeply rooted in her soul, and this everyone knows: in the end, the woman is stronger than the man. and basically less confused than him.

How does a keep himself from getting lost in the great feminine?
Until now the man’s answer was – I will control it. I will bend its hand, analyze it because it is a tool, so I will turn it into an object. I will put on a veil, a wig, cut her clitoris, tie her legs, and finish on her face.

Manhood cannot deal with femininity and therefore wants to humiliate it. Every time a man disrespects a woman (hears a joke about blondes, curses a female driver on the road,
sees how her ass is being spanked in a porn movie), he gets a small, low sexual stimulus, because for a moment he touches this place, the war which he almost always loses.

“In a relationship with a woman, a man’s punishment for his physical failure to serve as the goddess of love is her emotional tyranny,” writes Barry Long, the Australian teacher who passed away two years ago. “No matter how much he will love her, one day she will shock and destroy him by exposing Lilith, the feminine field Of sentimentality “

As long as the woman is not valued as one of the elements of nature that Barry Long says, the man can not accept his lost authority. So if couples do not learn to make love and move it up, then sex in its most basic form, there will be room to release aggression. The man is in constant sexual excitement higher than the woman. He is more excited about her than she is of him, so he ejaculates quickly or experiences impotence. His own observation and disappointment always lead to sexual frustration and emotional aggression, whereas in the woman, the dissatisfaction of the encounter causes her to plunge again and again into a world of fantasies that will never exist.

About the male’s fear of the women

Men want a little woman. Why? Because they are confused. A big woman reduces them. And who was the first big woman? Where did it start for us? At the Mother.

We accept the stupid war of the species so naturally because its roots lie so deep in the unconscious that we have no memory of the time we had been in our mother’s womb without a struggle.
The question “who am I” comes hand in hand with the discovery of the child (at about the age of 3) that there is a penis swinging between his legs, his restlessness does not end until the day he dies in a hospital. On his deathbed, he will try to look at the nurses. The question “Who am I?” Would not lead to such confusion in the man, if not at the age of three he discovers that he has a penis and his mother has a vagina.
Seemingly an important stage in becoming a man, in practice – the beginning of the male psyche. Because when he realizes that he has no vagina, he is actually forced to deny the place from which he came. He rejects the relationship with the most important figure he had at the beginning of his life and starts looking out for answers. The negation of the mother leaves him with a hole that he must fill; what am I? Who am I? This is the question that men follow all life later: What is it to be a man, how do I justify my masculinity, and the first answer that the boy accepts is negative: a boy is not a girl.

These are the roots of the tenderness rejection. The negation of the emotion that turns the man into a soldier in the war of the sexes. Because in his soft, childlike consciousness, a pattern has been created that, in order to create the positive, must turn everything that is “no”, the femininity, into a negative. My son, who is 6, is most insulted when I tell him that he looks or behaves like a girl. We can wrestle, hurt each other, call terrible names but I must not tell him he’s in some way like a girl because then he will start to cry.

Over the years, this insult changes its form but remains the same.

Thus, feminine values, such as tenderness, containment, affect, become in the male consciousness undesirable, dangerous, weak values. On the other hand, the society that needs soldiers, policemen and other protectors reinforce us in the opposite place, planting an opinion that men are brave, wrought, hard, not emotional.

Unfortunately, this is not the truth and this is an unbalanced picture of reality, that creates emotionally disabled men who are incapable of in-depth contact, who are afraid to be needy (ie submissive, that is, not masculine). Countless men roam around their world carrying heavy loads on their shoulders, unable to ask for help, unable to go to therapy.

Unfortunately, the tragedy of the boys who have managed to disengage from the mother without rejecting the feminine and going into the world without the obligation to justify their existence is that even if they manage to maintain the qualities of tenderness, emotional and mental containment after the age of 3, the school will remove it from them.

Children win or lose by their ability to succeed in the environment of their peers. So the sensitive boys, unless they develop the classic features of the boys (competitive, loud, sporty) will become victims of their friends, will be called transsexuals and will not be invited to the guys until they adopt proper codes. In the circles of men I edit, there is always someone who talks about the way he learned about masculinity only after being boycotted or called a daughter. This is the basis for male oppression in the hands of the few men who manage to get out of it.

Femininity as an object

Thus, it can be said that apart from exceptional men who have succeeded in finding good male models that release them from the need to disqualify femininity, the rest are afraid of the image of a large woman and therefore choose a small woman. We are more comfortable with young women. You can see it in the media. What is the perfect female figure as portrayed in advertisements? In telenovelas? Someone sweet, with a small nose but with big tits and perfect lips, more like a baby than a woman. A little girl who makes you want to protect her. That helps you feel masculine and powerful even if you are not. Round, wrinkled, and mature women are considered not to be aesthetic because they are too much like our mother and mothers, as you know, do not need guards, but on the contrary, if we need them, they will protect us.

Designers, photographers, newspaper editors, etc. Most of them are males with an undeveloped male perspective that fear powerful women and therefore (like any consumer product) shape an impossible woman figure that most women can never meet. Thus, the fear of a man from a big woman is passed through the fashion agents to 13-year-old girls who, with a little tendency to obesity and social insecurity, commit diets and eventually suffer from anorexia – direct victims of the war of sexes.

Another interesting (appealing and repulsive) reflection of the war of the sexes is pornographic films that reveal the male perspective without any refinement and are proving this point from another angle. For porn, as a product consumed in billions of dollars, was supposed to be part of the social discourse, especially in view of the great influence it has on its consumers, but, to be very astonishing, its talk is negligible. Porn is the black hole of our society. Why? Because it proves that when it comes to the bottom line, the consumer does not want to see sex as lovemaking but to see them fuck aggressively.
For several years now, I have been fiercely opposed to Porn.
Not to the essence of “photographing people making love” – which could have been very beautiful and even artistic, but to the blunt graphic form that is being displayed today in the world. There is very little quality porn in which the penetration and ejaculation are not the main things, there is no objectification of the woman body and can be seen as a connection and intimacy between the couple. Why the hell are they not kissing? Why don’t they look in the eye? To give some illusion of intimacy … unless porn is meant to give men the fantasy that a woman is only a hole (one or two or three) and that he has to come on her face.

Who will explain to me the logic of this? Why come her on the eye and not on her stomach? Why don’t people get up and say I stop consuming a product that humiliates my female friends? my daughter? When you consume it, you encourage it, you strengthen yourself in a bad war.

A man and a woman are sitting opposite me, they are in couples therapy.

At best it’s about a wedding ceremony they want me to do for them, and at worst they are in crisis and need help. In any case, it will not be a quarter of an hour before one of them makes the following statement: “… which is very difficult because in certain things we are perfect opposites …” and his partner will nod vigorously to reinforce the feeling that they are a very special couple. “For example,” she complains, “he does not talk anymore and I do not know what he feels”. Then he answers: “and she keeps entertaining friends.” A closer examination of the beginnings of their relationship during the first days of courtship shows that he has always been so silent, but then she saw it as a sign of masculinity, assertiveness, and power. At that time, he was attracted to her because she was warm, lively and open. Today it’s his problem.

Neo-Tantra versus the ancient Tantra

My Tantric work, the Neo-Tantra, is different from the ancient Tantra, which was the domain of monks who had never met a woman at all, by examining the masculine and feminine ways of actually merging them – between the sexes themselves and the sexuality between them.

Ask: “And what other options can be explored by men and women? The answer is that classical, Tibetan, and Hindu Tanta developed in another era (more conservative and traditional) and was therefore very ascetic and masculine.

It sends the practitioners, or monks, to nature to better understand the constant dialogue between the active (masculine) sides and the passive (female) through their reflection in reality – the river cuts the mountain, the snow freezes the grass, the clouds float in the sky, the passive gives an active background – and in fact gives it meaning. Thus sexual abstinence was and still is an inseparable part of this tantric initiation in order to provide the soul with a fertile platform of unsatisfied desire that the resonance is projected onto the entire nature.

The Neo-Tantra (which emanates from a Western society based mostly on the freedom to fall in love) has abolished the principle of abstinence. Neo- tantra says: To achieve the same goal – to study the erotic nature, the balance of the sexual instinct through his reflection in the sublime and the holy – Dive into it! Make friends with him, not alone and metaphorically – but through a spouse. Neo-Tantra takes the principles of classical tantra and applies them in relationships. It believes that through a good relationship (and sometimes a bad one) you can discover all the things that will bring you to balance. Consciously or unconsciously – your partner can be a master.

The demonization of the enemy

In short, neo-tantra is a practical, very earthly theory that has a clear purpose: to marry a man with his opposite. To bring inner peace between the contradictory desires of the soul.

The man is drawn to the woman and afraid of her. The woman is attracted to a man and angry at him. In my opinion, the war of the sexes has not yet surfaced. In addition to the jokes here and there, and in feminist articles, we did not put the great anger between the two sexes on the table.

The reason why the war on the sexes did not surface – only a few attacks by feminists – is because the occupying side still does not recognize that it behaves in a relationship out of fear and not out of freedom. He sits with his guys demonizing the enemy, telling jokes about blondes, watching blue movies and perpetuating the occupation.

You see it in every relationship.
For example, have you noticed that in our society the norm is that women are encouraged to always choose a man who is “more” than her? – in his years a man should be older than his partner in one year at least and must be taller than her .It is very desirable to have higher education, having a career and wages are more rewarding and I want to stop and ask – why? Is there any sort of agreement that women should be less? After all, from a sexual point of view, the woman reaches her peak in her mid-thirties (15 years after the man!). In terms of life expectancy, a woman should marry a man five to five years younger. The only conclusion here is that the advantage of an older man, more educated and higher, serves men in the status quo in the war of the sexes to enable the woman’s dependence on her husband.

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First, I will explain that “Yoni” in Indian is the name of the female genital organ and its meaning is the sacred place, and in my view, it is more pleasant to call the female genitalia and describe it than the other common and non-flattering names in Hebrew and other languages.

So what is a really Yoni massage?

What differs it from a simple touch with the fingers and makes it into a sacred and healing ritual? What are the benefits and why should you pay attention when you make the decision to undergo such a ceremony?

On the mental/spiritual/energetic level, Yoni is the second center or the second heart of the woman, as I experience it, and here it becomes more complex.

What is the connection between massage and energy stimulation in the body?

The energetic flow of the woman begins from the Yoni and enters through it and continues up through the uterus and the heart and up, and from this very direction the flow is collected into the Yoni, which for this matter is like an energetic strainer. A range of traumas and injuries, both physical and non-direct. It can be a word that a spouse/parent/ friend said or just a person from the street that said something to her or an experience not directly related to her and the energy just got stuck in Yoni.

Over the years, different experiences accumulate in Yoni, which sometimes affects the woman’s sexual behavior and feelings. Feelings and sensations of fear, guilt, shame, and embarrassment begin to settle and over time, an emotional contraction is created. That often becomes physical, and this can manifest in all sorts of phenomena such as vaginal contraction and dryness, burning and scratching in sexual intercourse and “inviting” various diseases to enter.

The Yoni massage touches the temple and heals all the layers of the woman. The woman’s consent to the touch in Yoni by a masseur as well as by a spouse is actually an invitation to enter the sanctity and in my eyes, this is the only way to touch a Yoni, holiness, compassion, love, and healing, meditation that is prayer.

This is what distinguishes the message from just playing with the fingers to sacred and healing ceremony, intention, understanding, and knowledge.

The sacred ceremony is divided into several stages: one can be passed through one massage in tastings or one stage is passed in separate messages. The stages are in order: a gentle massage, a message to the holy spot, a special message to release traumas, a female ejaculation ritual, and a cervical orgasm.

What does Tantra have to do with it?
Much of the ceremony is also devoted to transforming the sexual energy into love and lifting it up to the heart. The massage/ritual begins with no contact and is dedicated to studying breathing and energizing the body. There is a physical exercise to relax the body so that the good energy can flow freely, and the stuck and traumatic energy will be released from the body during the message that will come. After the breathing and exercises, begins a full body massage and pressure at energetic points that help the energy to move and release. And finally reach the temple, in the Yoni itself, we touch from the outside and inside there are additional pressure points that stimulate and release the energy, in the high stages of the ceremony you can work with orgasm and learn the difference between female masculine orgasm female feminine and how to rise and move and to Meditate through orgasms.

It is important to note that Yoni massage does not aim at pleasure, and yet it can happen and it is blessed, but it is only the result of the sacred process and the release of the stuck energies.

For whom the Yoni massage is designed for?
The message I described has many advantages in healing the release and empowerment of women and sexuality and therefore is intended for every woman regardless of her sexual abilities, her spiritual level, and her personal status, single or marital. Also, the Yoni massage can be learned by couples who wish to heal each other through these rituals.

What should you pay attention when you make a decision to undergo such a ceremony?

* It is worth checking out the real desire behind the request for the ceremony, in order to be precise.

* It is important to undergo it in a ritual and professional manner with a person who is capable of dealing with Lilith and the demons that emerged during the healing process.

* Unfortunately, many women have suffered severe injuries and are carrying them in their bodies and souls and during the massage, these things are released and healed, but it is important to check the readiness to deal with these injuries and to know the limits and go slowly.

* It is important to feel the energy of a male therapist that creates polarity for female energy and thus stimulates the healing that comes from a man, and sometimes it is good to feel the feminine energy which will flood and allow other things.

* Pleasure is a blessed thing, but focusing on the pleasure without energetic spiritual work can lead to a sense of emptiness and exploitation after a while.

* The space during the ceremony is dedicated to the woman only, a space in which she can devote herself and express herself freely without having to give back to anyone.

* Tantric massages are part of a whole spiritual way that changes a life, and it is recommended to undergo the massage as part of this path.

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Tantra is an ancient healing method that deals with human development, with all its parts, bringing him into harmony, inner peace, and happiness. From its ability to touch different parts of the human psyche, it is another treatment method for depression, which can sit on many levels of the human psyche.

What is depression?

Depression is usually caused by stagnant life energy. Hurt we have suffered during our lives, from early childhood to the rest of our lives. All kinds of pains, traumas and difficult experiences accumulated in the body, surround our emotional bodies as well as the physical body and create a deep body weight. This deep weight and pain in the body express themselves in one’s thinking.

The heaviness is expressed in the fact that our thoughts become heavier, gloomier, more depressive, pessimistic, hopeless, distrustful. All these injuries, accumulated during life, become part of our being, people walking in a heavy, oppressive field.

Depression often comes as part of our distance from our source, from our deep, quiet self, which always dwells deep there. With pain and lack of attention and awareness, the pain accumulates and we forget our true nature. So, when you begin to treat depression through Tantra, you start working with and on all aspects of your life.

Tantra Therapy to Relieve Depression

In Tantra Therapy, you can learn many topics of work and personal development, releasing all those places stuck in our body by opening up our physical bodies. The process is done with the help of physical exercises and emotional exercises of emotional expression.

First, we begin with the physical body, we open it. It is impossible to live a world of joy and vitality when the physical body is heavy and dense. This heaviness of the body affects our thinking, our optimism, and our ability to feel hope and knowledge that we are in a good, safe, and resourceful place. Later on, we begin to practice emotional work, to move our emotions, to learn how to release the repressed resentments, the rage and helplessness, the feelings of victims and hurt, the pain and everything that sits around our emotional bodies.
Using all kinds of techniques of moving energy within our body, through learning right communication and identifying the deep needs of what we need. Things that when depressed, we usually forget and do not know how to look inside and see what the body needs. Only layers of pain and hopelessness motivate and create thoughts.

Through the work of awareness, we begin to identify our deepest desires, our unique gifts and learn how to bring them into the world, how to express them, how to cross feelings of distrust. We learn to feel these feelings, learn to re-let them go, to release and open, to connect to our sources of empowerment. Identify the strong places, through a conscious work inward, and start working with them.

Tantra also refers to the aspect of sexual energy in our bodies. Sexual energy is the strongest physical energy that drives our body. Usually depressed people are cut off from this energy, cannot use this powerful engine to transform and change. Through Tantra, you learn how to open sexual energy, how to move it in your body. How can it be released from the sex regions and connect it to the stomach and to the sources of power and emotional bodies. Learn how to move it to the heart, to open and feel it. In the beginning, there is also a lot of pain, depression, rage, anger and all kinds of feelings and things sitting there. We then learn to transform and convert sexual energy and connect it to our thinking centers, to our connection to optimism and deep inner knowledge.

One of the problems that appear in depression is the inability to make a real choice. What makes one’s choices are the bodies of his pain and his inability to function. Through Tantra we learn to recognize these limitations, learn to renew our choices, choose the choices that benefit us. Sometimes it is a way of changing the environment, by changing a place or field of work, sometimes through all kinds of other changes that a person has to make. The person who suffers from depression usually does not see possibilities and hope, and through Tantra, these paths can be created within the person, to make a specific change and even to make significant changes in his environment. Working with Tantra, a holistic and complete therapy which works with all aspects of a person, goes through all levels. This way is a way of process. It does not happen in a day, nor a week. This is a process that a person commits himself to and does with himself. The process is suitable for someone who really wants to change his life, open and get out of depression. All you need at the beginning is to come and ask for assistance from a skilled person who can guide, instruct and teach you, how to work with your energies and strengths and how to work with your own fears.

Depression has all kinds of levels, from mild depression, deeper depression, and clinical depression. Clinical depression is a condition in which the person is out of function and can hardly get out of bed and home. Work in this situation is more profound, usually requires a deeper process, more labor intensive, but it is completely possible. From my experience of treating hundreds of people, the way is completely possible and open to those who really want to change, committed and do what is good for them. There are a varied tools that can this process.

Tantra for Depression: More Ways

There are other ways in which Tantra helps with depression. One way is to introduce the human body into an energetic trance, which can penetrate the subconscious systems and release the layers of pain and emotional armor that have been built over the years. Another way Tantra works is to transform pain energy into pleasure. People can be taught to experience pleasure at other levels than they know, not just sexual pleasure, emission and easy energy release of orgasms, but a profound transformation of energy into pleasure. A pleasure that spreads through the body and spreads throughout the system. A deep connection to pleasure is transformative in itself. Ecstasy and bliss – are mighty vessels that penetrate directly into the subconscious mind. These tools enable the deepest healing path known to man. With pleasure and deep spiritual experiences, people can release more shells from the depths of the subconscious, which sends them a difficult and painful reality. They can create a transformation there, beginning to create an optimistic way of life when they are connected and breathing. There are variety of tools of meditation and breathing, which can enhance the vitality of the body, and turn affect the thinking and patterns of action of the person and open the door to a significant change in his life.

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