Sex is war.

See your cute puppy coming back scratched from a night outside where he cuddled with five other males around some of the asses in heat. Hear a cat scream when the male’s jagged penis came inside of her.

True, sex and pain always went together. To this day there are those who yearn for the days of ancient man (sprout in the head and drag her into the cave). To this day the ‘reward’ for soldiers in tribal wars in Africa is the authorization to rape the women of the other tribe. Why else should a man go to battle? Why should he endanger himself?
The answer is clear:
When the masculine essence is to spread your seed, you are in constant war against other men on the woman’s uterus. That is, in the most natural, basic and instinctive sense – sex is war.

We are in a lose-lose situation. On the one hand, if we do not give it expression, if we close off and suppress this aggressiveness, we deny it the natural element that exists in it. The people will feel a void. After all, a woman somewhere deep wants her man to be strong, conqueror, and an animal in some ways. On the other hand, submission to this pattern in which only the man initiates intercourse, man controls him, directs him, leads his pace is giving up the shadow of what is holistic in sex. There is no pleasure in surrender and release.

This is the sad truth. The main victim in the eyes of the sex war is the man who fears weakness and softness. The one for which the mother, the feminine, is the “other”. The one who can not identify with her and therefore makes him the victim of the constant search for his male self. In practice, he always feels that he has failed in his mission to resemble the masculine ideal, because unlike the mother who is the concrete earthly, the father is always metaphorical, airy, an uncracked ideal for eternity.

After all, the father did not find himself (like a grandfather before him) and did not know what a man was, so he had no way to bring answers and points of support that would support his children’s search. That is why in reality (and this I hear from many men) the search for authorizations for our masculinity never ends.

Femininity is the whole nature

If so, we can summarize so far: the male is a male by virtue of his actions. He creates himself in constant search for permits. A female is a female by virtue of its essence. The physical separation from the mother is not traumatic and is not interrupted, but she continues to become psychologically identified: the girl participates in the activities of her mother, takes care of the dolls and even the two of them love the same man. Her essence is more solid than that of the son, her element is deeply rooted in her soul, and this everyone knows: in the end, the woman is stronger than the man. and basically less confused than him.

How does a keep himself from getting lost in the great feminine?
Until now the man’s answer was – I will control it. I will bend its hand, analyze it because it is a tool, so I will turn it into an object. I will put on a veil, a wig, cut her clitoris, tie her legs, and finish on her face.

Manhood cannot deal with femininity and therefore wants to humiliate it. Every time a man disrespects a woman (hears a joke about blondes, curses a female driver on the road,
sees how her ass is being spanked in a porn movie), he gets a small, low sexual stimulus, because for a moment he touches this place, the war which he almost always loses.

“In a relationship with a woman, a man’s punishment for his physical failure to serve as the goddess of love is her emotional tyranny,” writes Barry Long, the Australian teacher who passed away two years ago. “No matter how much he will love her, one day she will shock and destroy him by exposing Lilith, the feminine field Of sentimentality “

As long as the woman is not valued as one of the elements of nature that Barry Long says, the man can not accept his lost authority. So if couples do not learn to make love and move it up, then sex in its most basic form, there will be room to release aggression. The man is in constant sexual excitement higher than the woman. He is more excited about her than she is of him, so he ejaculates quickly or experiences impotence. His own observation and disappointment always lead to sexual frustration and emotional aggression, whereas in the woman, the dissatisfaction of the encounter causes her to plunge again and again into a world of fantasies that will never exist.

About the male’s fear of the women

Men want a little woman. Why? Because they are confused. A big woman reduces them. And who was the first big woman? Where did it start for us? At the Mother.

We accept the stupid war of the species so naturally because its roots lie so deep in the unconscious that we have no memory of the time we had been in our mother’s womb without a struggle.
The question “who am I” comes hand in hand with the discovery of the child (at about the age of 3) that there is a penis swinging between his legs, his restlessness does not end until the day he dies in a hospital. On his deathbed, he will try to look at the nurses. The question “Who am I?” Would not lead to such confusion in the man, if not at the age of three he discovers that he has a penis and his mother has a vagina.
Seemingly an important stage in becoming a man, in practice – the beginning of the male psyche. Because when he realizes that he has no vagina, he is actually forced to deny the place from which he came. He rejects the relationship with the most important figure he had at the beginning of his life and starts looking out for answers. The negation of the mother leaves him with a hole that he must fill; what am I? Who am I? This is the question that men follow all life later: What is it to be a man, how do I justify my masculinity, and the first answer that the boy accepts is negative: a boy is not a girl.

These are the roots of the tenderness rejection. The negation of the emotion that turns the man into a soldier in the war of the sexes. Because in his soft, childlike consciousness, a pattern has been created that, in order to create the positive, must turn everything that is “no”, the femininity, into a negative. My son, who is 6, is most insulted when I tell him that he looks or behaves like a girl. We can wrestle, hurt each other, call terrible names but I must not tell him he’s in some way like a girl because then he will start to cry.

Over the years, this insult changes its form but remains the same.

Thus, feminine values, such as tenderness, containment, affect, become in the male consciousness undesirable, dangerous, weak values. On the other hand, the society that needs soldiers, policemen and other protectors reinforce us in the opposite place, planting an opinion that men are brave, wrought, hard, not emotional.

Unfortunately, this is not the truth and this is an unbalanced picture of reality, that creates emotionally disabled men who are incapable of in-depth contact, who are afraid to be needy (ie submissive, that is, not masculine). Countless men roam around their world carrying heavy loads on their shoulders, unable to ask for help, unable to go to therapy.

Unfortunately, the tragedy of the boys who have managed to disengage from the mother without rejecting the feminine and going into the world without the obligation to justify their existence is that even if they manage to maintain the qualities of tenderness, emotional and mental containment after the age of 3, the school will remove it from them.

Children win or lose by their ability to succeed in the environment of their peers. So the sensitive boys, unless they develop the classic features of the boys (competitive, loud, sporty) will become victims of their friends, will be called transsexuals and will not be invited to the guys until they adopt proper codes. In the circles of men I edit, there is always someone who talks about the way he learned about masculinity only after being boycotted or called a daughter. This is the basis for male oppression in the hands of the few men who manage to get out of it.

Femininity as an object

Thus, it can be said that apart from exceptional men who have succeeded in finding good male models that release them from the need to disqualify femininity, the rest are afraid of the image of a large woman and therefore choose a small woman. We are more comfortable with young women. You can see it in the media. What is the perfect female figure as portrayed in advertisements? In telenovelas? Someone sweet, with a small nose but with big tits and perfect lips, more like a baby than a woman. A little girl who makes you want to protect her. That helps you feel masculine and powerful even if you are not. Round, wrinkled, and mature women are considered not to be aesthetic because they are too much like our mother and mothers, as you know, do not need guards, but on the contrary, if we need them, they will protect us.

Designers, photographers, newspaper editors, etc. Most of them are males with an undeveloped male perspective that fear powerful women and therefore (like any consumer product) shape an impossible woman figure that most women can never meet. Thus, the fear of a man from a big woman is passed through the fashion agents to 13-year-old girls who, with a little tendency to obesity and social insecurity, commit diets and eventually suffer from anorexia – direct victims of the war of sexes.

Another interesting (appealing and repulsive) reflection of the war of the sexes is pornographic films that reveal the male perspective without any refinement and are proving this point from another angle. For porn, as a product consumed in billions of dollars, was supposed to be part of the social discourse, especially in view of the great influence it has on its consumers, but, to be very astonishing, its talk is negligible. Porn is the black hole of our society. Why? Because it proves that when it comes to the bottom line, the consumer does not want to see sex as lovemaking but to see them fuck aggressively.
For several years now, I have been fiercely opposed to Porn.
Not to the essence of “photographing people making love” – which could have been very beautiful and even artistic, but to the blunt graphic form that is being displayed today in the world. There is very little quality porn in which the penetration and ejaculation are not the main things, there is no objectification of the woman body and can be seen as a connection and intimacy between the couple. Why the hell are they not kissing? Why don’t they look in the eye? To give some illusion of intimacy … unless porn is meant to give men the fantasy that a woman is only a hole (one or two or three) and that he has to come on her face.

Who will explain to me the logic of this? Why come her on the eye and not on her stomach? Why don’t people get up and say I stop consuming a product that humiliates my female friends? my daughter? When you consume it, you encourage it, you strengthen yourself in a bad war.

A man and a woman are sitting opposite me, they are in couples therapy.

At best it’s about a wedding ceremony they want me to do for them, and at worst they are in crisis and need help. In any case, it will not be a quarter of an hour before one of them makes the following statement: “… which is very difficult because in certain things we are perfect opposites …” and his partner will nod vigorously to reinforce the feeling that they are a very special couple. “For example,” she complains, “he does not talk anymore and I do not know what he feels”. Then he answers: “and she keeps entertaining friends.” A closer examination of the beginnings of their relationship during the first days of courtship shows that he has always been so silent, but then she saw it as a sign of masculinity, assertiveness, and power. At that time, he was attracted to her because she was warm, lively and open. Today it’s his problem.

Neo-Tantra versus the ancient Tantra

My Tantric work, the Neo-Tantra, is different from the ancient Tantra, which was the domain of monks who had never met a woman at all, by examining the masculine and feminine ways of actually merging them – between the sexes themselves and the sexuality between them.

Ask: “And what other options can be explored by men and women? The answer is that classical, Tibetan, and Hindu Tanta developed in another era (more conservative and traditional) and was therefore very ascetic and masculine.

It sends the practitioners, or monks, to nature to better understand the constant dialogue between the active (masculine) sides and the passive (female) through their reflection in reality – the river cuts the mountain, the snow freezes the grass, the clouds float in the sky, the passive gives an active background – and in fact gives it meaning. Thus sexual abstinence was and still is an inseparable part of this tantric initiation in order to provide the soul with a fertile platform of unsatisfied desire that the resonance is projected onto the entire nature.

The Neo-Tantra (which emanates from a Western society based mostly on the freedom to fall in love) has abolished the principle of abstinence. Neo- tantra says: To achieve the same goal – to study the erotic nature, the balance of the sexual instinct through his reflection in the sublime and the holy – Dive into it! Make friends with him, not alone and metaphorically – but through a spouse. Neo-Tantra takes the principles of classical tantra and applies them in relationships. It believes that through a good relationship (and sometimes a bad one) you can discover all the things that will bring you to balance. Consciously or unconsciously – your partner can be a master.

The demonization of the enemy

In short, neo-tantra is a practical, very earthly theory that has a clear purpose: to marry a man with his opposite. To bring inner peace between the contradictory desires of the soul.

The man is drawn to the woman and afraid of her. The woman is attracted to a man and angry at him. In my opinion, the war of the sexes has not yet surfaced. In addition to the jokes here and there, and in feminist articles, we did not put the great anger between the two sexes on the table.

The reason why the war on the sexes did not surface – only a few attacks by feminists – is because the occupying side still does not recognize that it behaves in a relationship out of fear and not out of freedom. He sits with his guys demonizing the enemy, telling jokes about blondes, watching blue movies and perpetuating the occupation.

You see it in every relationship.
For example, have you noticed that in our society the norm is that women are encouraged to always choose a man who is “more” than her? – in his years a man should be older than his partner in one year at least and must be taller than her .It is very desirable to have higher education, having a career and wages are more rewarding and I want to stop and ask – why? Is there any sort of agreement that women should be less? After all, from a sexual point of view, the woman reaches her peak in her mid-thirties (15 years after the man!). In terms of life expectancy, a woman should marry a man five to five years younger. The only conclusion here is that the advantage of an older man, more educated and higher, serves men in the status quo in the war of the sexes to enable the woman’s dependence on her husband.

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Sigmund Freud says that the man was born neurotic. That’s the half-truth. Man is not born neurotic but he is born into a neurotic humanity, and society around turns everyone, sooner or later into neurotic. Man is born natural, real, normal, but as soon as the newborn becomes part of society, neurosis begins.

As we are, we are neurotics. Neurosis consists of a split – a deep split. You are not one; You are two or even more. This must be understood in depth. Only then can we continue with Tantra. Your emotion and your thinking have become two different things; This is the basis of neurosis. The thinking part and the feeling part became two, and you identify with the thinking part not with the feeling part. Feeling is more natural than thinking. You came with the heart that felt, while the mind nurtured. It was delivered by the society, and your feeling has become suppressed. Even when you say you feel, you just think you feel. This happened for a number of reasons.

The first sutra in the ancient book Vigian Behrab Tantra says:

“And as you continue to do so, avoid the final vents. At the beginning of the sexual union, keep your vigilance to the starting fire”

And that’s what makes all the difference.

For you, the sexual act is an outlet. So you move into it in haste. You want to get discharged. Overflowing energy will be released; Feel relieved. This relief is just a form of weakness. Overflowing energy creates tension, excitement, and you feel that something has to be done. After the energy is released you feel weak. You may refer to this weakness as relaxation because the excitement has passed, the overflowing energy has passed. You can relax. But this relaxation is negative relaxation. If you are able to enter relaxation only by emitting energy, it has a very high price. And this relaxation can only be physical. It does not penetrate deeply, and can not become spiritual.

This first sutra says, Do not rush and do not yearn to finish. Stay with the start. The sexual act has two parts: the beginning and the end. Stay with the start. The first part is calmer, warmer. But do not rush to the finish. Forget the end altogether.

At the beginning of sexual union, keep your vigilance to the beginning fire.

When you are overflowing, do not think in terms of release. Stay with this overflowing energy. Do not look for ejection. Forget it completely! stay complete in this warmth of the beginning. Stay with your sweetheart, as if you have become one. Create a circle.

There are three options. A meeting of two lovers can create three geometric shapes. You may have read about it or even seen an old alchemical picture in which a man and a woman stand naked in three geometric shapes. One shape is the square, another is a triangle, and the third is the circle.

This is one of the oldest alchemical and tantric analyzes of the sexual act. Usually, when you are in the sexual act there are four people, not two – this is the square. There are four angles there because you are divided into two parts – the thinking part and the feeling part – your partner is also divided into two. You are four people. Not two people meet there but four. That’s a lot. There really can not be a deep encounter. There are four angles and the encounter is fake. It looks like a meeting, but it is not. There is no communication, because your deep side is hidden, and the deep side of your beloved is also hidden. It is only a two-pronged encounter, just a meeting of two thought processes, not of two processes of emotion. These are hidden.

The second type of encounter can be like a triangle. You are two – two base angles. For a fleeting moment, you become one, like the third angle of the triangle. But only for a brief moment … Your seconds are lost and you become one. This is better than the square encounter since at least for a single moment there is unity. This unity gives you health, vitality. You feel alive and young again.

But the third is the best. The third is the Tantra meeting: you become a circle. There are no angles, and the encounter is not for a single moment. The encounter is truly non-temporary; Time does not exist within it. And this can only happen if you are not looking for ejaculation. If you’re looking for an ejaculation, then it will turn into a triangular encounter – because once the ejaculation occurred, the contact point has been lost.

Stay with the beginning; Do not move towards the end. How to stay at the beginning? There are many things to remember.

Do not treat the sexual act as if it were moving somewhere. Do not treat it as a means – It has no purpose; Second, do not think about the future; Stay with the present. If you can not stay in the present at the beginning of the sexual act, then you can never stay in the present – since the nature of the act itself is one that throws you into the present.

Stay in the present. Enjoy the meeting of the two bodies, the two souls, merged into one another … dissolved into each other. Stay in the moment without going anywhere, and melt away. You have to turn your warmth, your love, into a place where you can melt into one another.

Therefore, if there is no love, the sexual act is a hasty event. You use another; the other is only a means, and the other uses you. You take advantage of each other. You do not merge into one another. With love, you can merge. Merging at first will provide many insights.

If you do not rush to finish the act, the act gradually becomes less and less sexual and more spiritual. The genitals also dissolve in each other. There is a deep, silent separation between the energies of the two bodies, and then you can stay together for hours. Together it goes deeper into the passage of time. But do not think. Stay in the moment, in a deep merger. It turns into ecstasy, to Samhadi. And if you can know this, if you can feel and realize it, your sexual mind will become non-sexual. In this way, it is possible to obtain a very deep Brahmacharya, to achieve celibacy.

It seems paradoxical because we think in terms that if a person is supposed to stay apart, he must not look at the other sex, he must not meet … avoid, run away! Then the most false celibacy is created: the mind continues to think about the opposite sex. The more you escape from the second, the more you have to think because it is a deep basic need.

Tantra says, do not try to escape – escape is not possible. Instead, use nature itself to get beyond. Do not fight! Accept nature in order to transcend it. Unite this with your lover. If you extend it, without ending, just stay at the beginning …. excitement is energy. You can lose it, you can reach a peak, and then the energy gets lost and you get depressed, feel weak. You can treat it as relaxation – but it is negative.

Tantra gives you a higher dimension of relaxation that is positive. The two partners meet one another, delivering vital energy to each other. They become a circle, and their energy begins to flow in a circle. They give life to each other, a renewed life. There is no loss of energy. Instead, more energy is acquired, because through the encounter with the opposite sex every cell in your body wakes up, excited. If you can dissolve in this excitement without leading it to a climax, staying at first, without getting excited, staying warm, these two warm-ups will meet.

You can extend the act for a long time. Without ejaculation, without throwing energy out, it becomes meditation. You become whole through it. Your divided personality is no longer divided – it is connected.

When a child is born, he is an entity that feels. He feels things; He is not yet a thinking entity. It is natural, just like anything natural in nature – just like a tree or an animal. He must suppress his feelings because if he does not suppress his feelings he will always be in trouble. When he wants to cry he cannot cry because his parents will not approve it. He would be condemned, he would not be appreciated, they would not love him. He will not be accepted as he is. He must learn how to behave. He must behave in accordance with a certain ideology, ideals; Only then would they love him.

When he is himself, love is not for him. He can only win love if he obeys certain laws. These laws are forced upon him; They are not natural. The natural being begins to be suppressed, and the unnatural, the unreal, is forced upon it. This unreal thing is your mind, and there comes a moment when the split is so great that you can not overcome it. You completely forget what your true nature was – or what it is. You are a fake face; The original face was lost. And you are also afraid to feel the originality, because once you feel that the whole society will be against you. So you yourself turn against your true nature.

This creates a very neurotic situation. You do not know what you want; You do not know what your real, authentic needs are. You turn to non-authentic needs because only the sensitive heart can give you the sense, the direction … What is your real need? When repressed, you create symbolic needs. For example, you may eat more and more, fatten yourself with food, and you can never feel full. The need is for love, not food, but food and love are deeply connected. So when the need for love is not felt or repressed, there is a need for food. You may continue to eat. Since the need is false, it can never be satisfied. We live in fake needs; That’s why we do not achieve satisfaction.

You want to be loved; This is a basic need, natural, but it can be diverted to a false dimension. For example, the need for love, being loved, maybe felt like a fake need if you try to divert the attention of others to you. You want others to pay attention to you – but the real need is to be loved, and even if the whole world pays attention to you, this basic need cannot be satisfied. To satisfy that basic need it is enough for one person to love you, to give you attention, out of love.

When you love someone you give him attention. Attention and love are deeply related. If you repress the need for love, then it becomes a symbolic need- you need the attention of others. You may accept it and still not be satisfied. The need is false, detached from the basic natural need. This division within the personality is the neurosis.

Tantra is a revolutionary concept – the oldest and the most modern. Tantra is one of the oldest traditions and yet it is not traditional, even anti-traditional since Tantra says that as long as you are not whole and one, you completely miss life. You must not remain in the split state; You have to become one.

What do you need to do to be one?

You can keep thinking but it will not help you because thinking is a separation technique. Thinking is analytic, it separates, divides things. Emotion connects, creates synthesis, turns things into one. So you can continue to think, read, study, observe. It will not help until you fall back to the emotional center. But this is a very difficult thing because even when we think of the emotional center, we think!

When you say to someone, “I love you,” note whether it’s just a thought or an emotion. If it’s just a thought, then you’re missing something. Emotion refers to the whole; Your whole body, your mind, whatever you are involved in. In the darkness, only your head is involved, and this, too, is incomplete – only a fragment of it, a passing thought. Perhaps it would not be there anymore. Only a fragment is involved, and it creates great suffering in life, because for a piece of thought you may make promises you can not keep. You can say, “I love you and I will love you forever.” Now, the second part is a promise you can not keep because it was given by a fragment of thought. Your whole being was not involved. What will you do tomorrow when the thought will no longer exist? Now the promise will become a lie.

Sartre says somewhere that every promise becomes false. You can not guarantee because you are not complete!

Only a part of me promises, and when the part is no longer on the throne, another part takes over, what am I supposed to do?

Who will keep the promise?

You were born hypocritical because then I continue to try to maintain, I pretend that I keep the promise… Then everything becomes false.

Tantra says, fall deep inside you into the emotional center. What to do and how to fall back? Now go into the sutras. These Sutras, each of them, is an effort to make you whole.

At the beginning of the sexual union, keep your vigilance to the starting fire, and always keep away from the finish line.

Sex can be a very deep fulfillment and sex can throw you back to your truth and natural being, for many reasons. These reasons must be understood.

First, sex is a complete action. You are thrown out of your mind, out of balance. That’s why there’s so much fear of sex. You identify with your mind and sex is an unconscious act. You become headless. You do not involve any head in this action. There is no logical consideration, no mental process. If there is a mental process, there is no real sexual act, authentic. Then there is no orgasm, no fulfillment. Then the sexual act becomes something local, something intellectual, and it has become such.

All over the world so much craving, such lust for sex, and not because the world has become more sexual. This is because you can not even enjoy sex as a whole. The world was more sexual than before. So there was not so much craving for sex. This craving indicates that you are missing out on the real and chasing the fake. The modern mind becomes all sexual because the sexual act itself no longer exists there. Even the sexual act was transferred to the mind; Became mental, you think of it.

Many people come to me; they say they are constantly thinking about sex; They enjoy thinking about it – reading, looking at pictures, watching porn movies, they enjoy. But once the moment comes to have sex they suddenly feel a lack of interest. They even feel that they have become impotent. They feel vital energy only when they think. When they seek to move into actual action, they feel empty from energy, even without desire. They feel their bodies have become dead.

What happened to them?

Even the sexual act became mental. They can only think of it; They are unable to carry it out in a real way because it will fully integrate their being. Whenever there is any involvement of the whole, the head becomes troubled – because then he will no longer be the master, he will lose control.
Tantra uses the sexual act to make you whole, but then you must move into it in a very meditative way. Then you must move into it by forgetting everything you have heard about sex, learning about sex, what society has told you, church, religion, teachers … forgetting everything, and being involved in it in your entirety. Forget control! Control is the barrier. Instead, let it hold you; Do not control it.

Move into it like you’ve become crazy-unskilled looks like madness. Become a body, become an animal, since the animal is complete. In the state of modern man, sex seems to be the easiest option to make you whole, since sex is the deepest thing, the biological center within you. You were born of it. Each cell you are made of was born from a sexual cell. Your whole body is a phenomenon of sexual energy.

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There is great confusion these days in the sexual energy, the energy that creates and sustains all life, the strongest energy that exists within us. There are two poles of this energy, masculine and feminine. Each of these polarizers has different qualities that are responsible for the functioning of all who we are. We are composed of masculine energy and feminine energy, and each of us also has feminine and masculine qualities.

The properties of a healthy masculine energy:

Presence – the ability to be here and now in and out of the body in a full connection.

The ability to penetrate – the life, the feminine  and all the inner shadows. Done out of presence, tenderness, sweetness and desire to give.

Clarity – the deep connection to the spiritual worlds and the bringing of precision into this moment, the ability to see clearly the vision and the direction of realization.

Creating a safe and secure space – placing clear and healthy boundaries and structures – creates security while allowing the feminine to be all that it is.

Accurate communication – in listening, in speech, in presence, in sharing and in facilitation, the ability to be authentic and real.

Strength – the ability to fulfill, the power to break through, to give a clear direction and to persevere. The ability to exercise in life.

Testimony – the ability to be neutral and without judgment, deep observation in a moment without identification.

When healthy masculine energy is not nurtured, it becomes damaged and hurtful.

The ‘shadows’ of masculine energy:

Controlling and Planning – In the absence of true presence and trust, male energy tries to control, manipulate, a impose life on itself.

Confusion, blurring and lack of direction – when the ability to be present is dimmed, there is no direction, nowhere and how to penetrate and it creates paralysis and submission to what happens without the ability to decide and perform. Looks and feels like lack of backbone, damaged integrity and trust.

Aggressiveness – When the presence is weak, the ability to penetrate the world with presence, sweetness and softness is weakened, and then the masculine becomes difficult, aggressive, and even violent, perceptions of war, competition and survival are strengthened, instead of peace, cooperation and creativity.

Chaos and insecurity – when the ability to create clear and healthy boundaries does not exist, a chaotic and threatening space is created, there is nothing to define and create security. This is how exploitation is born, traumas, distrust and fears.

Lies – When the communication is inaccurate and unreal, false life is created. We walk on exhausting, painful paths, entrenchment in the self and inability to grow and develop.

Frenzy and internal noise – when observation and uneducated committees create internal noise, thoughts and feelings dominate the system, movement from the past to the future, lack of peace, satisfaction and quiet, self-judgment and external criticism.

The healthy properties of feminine energy:

Love – the energy of love itself, the ability to love and be loved, to let love itself flow through us, unconditional and without restrictions.

Devotion and surrender – the ability to let go, to give in to the moment, to energy, to everything that exists, to everything that comes, to be the energy itself and to deepen within it in totality.

Radiation and the ability to develop – the glamor and beauty of life energy, the energy that attracts the masculine, is expressed in nature in radiant viscosity (women and men), Mother Earth. The agreement and the ability to develop more and more, to delve deeper and deeper into devotion and love.

Energy in motion – all types of emotional energy movements, the ability to be total in them, and the ability to move from one emotional state to another in full devotion.

Acceptance – the ability to accept the existing, to deepen the liberation of the old, and to develop more and receive more and expand the channels of
acceptance in our life.

When the feminine energy is not nurtured it becomes damaged and its shadows are:

Conditional love – When love does not reach its depths (mainly due to lack of male presence), love is limited to the exchange of energy, give and take games, love with conditions and laws.

Emotional Disconnection – When the ability to surrender and succumb is weakened, trust is weakened, defenses are created, energy rises to the top (heightened thinking and mind), and a disconnect is created from the emotional bodies.

Emotional drama – when female radiation is weakened and barriers are created from opening, female energy is stuck in pain and suffering and produces more and more painful emotional energy, a feeling of victimization activated and the mechanisms of guilt and applied internally and externally, patterns of revenge and punishment are intensified.

Closure and Opacity – When the ability to accept is closed, the sexual energy is stuck, not renewed, not flowing, everything feels stressed, the detachment from life grows , the patterns of survival are activated and freedom is reduced.

The Sacred Union

The sacred union is the deep encounter between masculine and feminine, a deep space is created in this encounter – of presence and love, of heaven and earth, spirit and matter. This session allows for the deepest healing, the deepest connection, and the deepest transformation.

Sacred union is performed at various levels in depth and form and infinite expressions to it. This sacred union also occurs in our midst (the healthy masculine in us meets the healthy feminine in us, when presence and love merge, and we go deeper into our core, the root of our being to our unity) and in sacred encounters with the outside world (humans, nature ,energy entities, etc).

The sacred union within the act of love making:

The act of love is first of all within us, when presence and love merge together, the masculine and the feminine within us meet and heal each other, and we relax deeply into the place within ourselves that is all and the other place within us is void.

When we relate to the sacred union with another person, we relate to the intersection of the poles that are built with the other’s poles. Usually one person connects to one energy and the other to the other, men usually connect to the masculine and women to the feminine (even in the same sex encounter, one side usually chooses masculine and feminine), this polarity is essential for sexual attraction and general health.

In this article, I refer to the sacred union between a man and a woman, even though as mentioned, it speaks of masculine and feminine, and therefore also applies to all types of encounters.

The encounter begins with the two’s agreeing to create a sacred encounter, a healing encounter that allows anything that wants to rise from our depths (subconscious) to come to the surface and receive expression and transformation. The masculine wants to bring his healthy qualities and through them to open and deepen the feminine, while the feminine wants to surrender and open and move the flow of love.

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